Self Care Sunday – Learning To Be Kind To Myself

Self Care Sunday

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This Self Care Sunday is about me working on accepting that I am human. I make mistakes and it’s ok. I have a tendency to expect perfection from myself. When I do slip up, I am often very hard on myself. I am working on being kinder to myself. So here’s what happened….

I went to Philly for the weekend. My great niece graduated grade school. I went to Philly to see family and go to her party. I was feeling a bit off most of Saturday. I had a lingering headache in between my eyes which eventually passed as the day went on. Since there is a rife in family I was also uneasy about going to the party because my niece’s parents are part of the problem. I felt a kid shouldn’t be punished because of the actions of the parents so I went to the party. I also went because my Mom wanted me to go with her and I needed to to be a good daughter to my Mom this weekend. After all, she’s been my only parent since I was seven.

The party ended up being much more enjoyable than I expected. I made plans to bring three of my five great nieces to my house for a weekend in August. They all play tournament softball. They work hard and play ball EVERY weekend all summer long. My niece going into high school pitches over 50mph and is already being scouted by colleges. They are going to Nationals in Myrtle Beach in July. After they get back from Nationals, my nephew is letting them take a long weekend off from ball to come to my house for beach time the first weekend in August. It’s about teaching them to create balance in life. I live on the beach with a pool. We can also walk down the boardwalk and catch fireworks on Saturday night. When the girls are with me, they are just kids at the beach for a weekend. I am hoping to teach them having fun and balance in life is as important as working hard while playing ball.

Anyway, back to the story of how I screwed up… My Mother lives on hill. Normally when I am staying with her for a weekend, she lets her neighbors know. Then they leave me a spot out front of her house so she doesn’t have to walk up the hill to my car. When got home around 11pm last night. All the spots were filled and I had to park at the top of hill. When we went out this morning for breakfast, she asked me to back the car down to her house so she didn’t have to walk up with her cane. This is when I screwed up😂 I am a VERY careful driver but for some reason while I was backing up, I lost my bearings. I backed into a parked car because I didn’t see it in my blind spot. It wasn’t a lot of damage but a good dent and some paint was scraped. It was my Mom’s neighbor’s daughter’s car. After I parked, I went and knocked on their door. Told them I would pay cash for the repairs and take care of everything. Then the daughter said, “Sorry, we know to leave your spot open when you come to see your Mom. My boyfriend parked in it and I forgot to tell him to move.” I thanked her but made it clear it was my fault not hers. The parking issue is just another issue why I can’t wait for my mom to move especially now that she uses a cane and can’t walk up the hill.

My Mom’s neighbors were fine. Very understanding and accommodating. They know I am going to pay for repairs. They weren’t even upset. They actually felt bad they didn’t leave the spot open. It was me who couldn’t let it go. I was beating myself up trying to figure out how it happened. I kept telling myself I should have just went around the block. Until my Mom looked at me and said, “would you STOP”. Everything is ok. There wasn’t much damage and you are taking care of it.”

As I drove home, I was fairly annoyed with myself. I was trying to figure out why I couldn’t let it go.Why was I punishing myself for making a mistake. Well, it’s gonna be close to a $500 mistake. Ouch! I’ve only had this new car for 10 months and it already has been banged up three times. That makes me a little worried. The interesting thing is if I wouldn’t have been rear-ended three weeks ago, I would not have known how to handle the situation without cops or insurance getting involved. So when I put my car into the shop on Tuesday to get the body work done from that accident, they can also touch up my paint from this morning’s boo-boo😂

When I got home, I went for a four mile walk on the boardwalk. I had enough sun for today so I am now sitting on my balcony writing this blog. I am also working on accepting I am human and accidents happen. It’s interesting that I am often kinder and more understanding with others than I am to myself. That’s is an opportunity for growth for me. It’s something I will be working on with my own Holistic Wellness Coach and fellow IIN Alumni, Stephanie at www.findyourbrave.co. Stephanie has become a close friend, accountability partner to me and she is a great Coach!

On a side note, I asked my Mom to do the DNA Ancestry test and she said, “Nope! Grandmom was off the boat from Ireland; she had a Brogue. PopPop’s parents were off the boat from Ireland and Germany. I know what I am. Your Dad was the mutt; not me!”😂😂😂 I also did some research. 23andMe considers Ireland to under England. That’s why mine came up mostly British. My Mom and I went through all of my sister’s photos from out west. I found out she went out west a few times to visit a cousin who was in the Air Force and stationed in Montana. She went to South Dakota, Montana and Iowa. She took the train coast to coast. I think I would like to retrace some of her steps in my trip next year but I am not sure about the train coast to coast, maybe only one direction 🙂

Are you a perfectionist? Do you beat yourself up when you screw up? Do you know how to be kind to yourself?

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Self Care

Remember – Blue Love Poetry

Art lovers Remember – Blue Love Poetry
By: Linda A. Long

Take a moment
Just one moment
Close your eyes
Take a long deep breathe
Breathe in
Slowly
And think of me
Breathe out
Slowly
And exhale
My name
In this beautiful
Peaceful moment
Think of me
Call me
Before you
Until you see me
Staying in
Front of you
With my eyes
Locked in an embrace
With yours
Think of me
Until you feel
My affection
For you
Softening you
With the gentle
Touch of my hand
Against your chest
Think of me
Until you are aroused

Remember
What it felt
Like to
Share a lustful moment
With me
Remember
How it felt
To share
A glance
With me
As we passed by
Remember
How it felt
To sit near me
And feel my energy
Remember
What it felt like
To know
My heart
Was racing with
Excitement for you

Take a moment
And revisit
This beautiful time
We shared
Take a moment
And remember
What it felt like
To look deep
Into my soul
As you
Have done
A hundred times
In the past
Remember
How it felt to
See my heart
And know
It was beating for you
Close your eyes
And remember
How you felt
When we
Were near each other

It’s still yours
My fire
My magic
My excitement
My energy
My passion
My lust
And desire
Is still yours
Our peace
Our friendship
Our loyalty
Our love
Is still yours
It is still yours
Close your eyes
And remember
How it felt
When I was near you
It is still yours
This pure
Unconditional Love
Is still yours
Remember
How it feels
To be loved
By me
Remember
You are loved
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Self Care Sunday – Saying YES and Living In The Flow

Native American Quote

Do you want to know how to unlock the Universal flow positive energy in your life? Say “Yes!” to opportunities that come your way. Saying “Yes” to opportunities is a powerful way to signal the Universe that you are ready for more!

Here’s how it happened to me this week. On Tuesday morning I was asked a question by my boss, “ Linda, do you want to take the action to create an Rotating Exhibit Plan for the Center’s Museum Concept?” The truth is I am pretty busy with standing up my program and really didn’t want to take the action. However, I understand the flow of universally energies enough to know when you say “No” to opportunities, you are signaling the Universe that you aren’t ready or interested. You are more or less telling the Univese “don’t come around here no more; I am not interested!”😂 In other words you are changing the flow of Universal Positive energy and shifting yourself out of alignment. I also understand there is power and opportunity in saying “Yes”. So I said, “Yes”. The next day I got a call from someone asking me to be their Life Coach. While I was planning on taking the summer off from coaching, I knew I couldn’t say “No”. If I said no, I would be telling the Universe “no thank you. I’m not ready”. So I said, “Yes”. The next day I got an email with an offer to attend a free PMP Bootcamp in DC; my boss only has to fund my travel. I said “Yes” knowing he already offered to pay for my PMP. So now I get to spend a whole week in DC in August and take my PMP by the end of the fiscal year. That chain of events may not have happened if i said “No” to the first opportunity.

Do you see what I mean about being in the flow of Universal energies? When you say “yes” to people and opportunities, you open the door to more opportunities. When you say “no”, you are telling the Universe you are not ready or worthy. It will skip you the next time. When you say “no” or hesitate, you shift yourself out of alignment and ultimately make things harder for yourself.

Are you living in alignment? Does your life flow easily? Is your career energizing or depleting? Life and work are not meant to be hard or a struggle. Will life be challenging? YES! Can life be rewarding? Hopefully! Should life or work be depleting or exhausting? Only if you are swimming upstream and living or working out of alignment with the truth of who you are. It is really that simple.

I try to explain this basic Law of Attraction principle to folks who become my clients because I believe it is the key to creating abundance in all areas of life. One must understand how to live in the flow of positive energies and understand you must say “Yes” to people and opportunities that at first glance may not be of interest to you. You never know where one “YES” may lead you. Every time you say “no” you are telling the Universe you are not interested in opportunities.

How did I get to this place and come to understand this stuff? My life got jacked up and I started educating myself. Then my eyes were open! Once the soul awakens and your eyes are opened to the truth in your life, you can no longer live a lie.

Another example of living in flow happened this week. Last week I decided I wanted to learn more about the Native American Culture and my ancestors. I remembered going to Pow-Wow with my family when I was a little girl so I googled local pow-wows. As luck or synchronicity would have it, there was one this weekend in Woodstown, NJ which is about 50 miles from my home. I drove up Saturday. The photos below are from the event. I find the Native American culture, customs and rituals to be spiritually rewarding for me. The only lesson learned was to arrive about a half an hour before the Grand Entrance instead of two hours earlier. By the time the dancing started, I was already hot and tired and didn’t last long. However, it worked out best I left earlier than I planned because I hit a big storm on the way home and got out of the fairgrounds before it hit Woodstown 🙂 Again, I was in the flow. I also made a decision today about my trip in 2019. I am definitely going to a Indian Reservation first than Europe. Most likely Blackfeet Nation in Glacier National Park, Montana because my sister once went there.

Saturday was the 44th Anniversary of my father’s death. Hard to imagine it’s been that long since I seen him. I was only seven years old. Years later I signed up to volunteer for organization that does grief counseling for children. I actually got up to leave mid-way through the training because I was so overwhelmed. One of the counselors followed me out. She asked me to tell her what I was feeling. It was then I learned for the first time that children who experience traumas before the age of 10 often have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder for the rest of their lives. The trauma becomes part of their DNA. They struggle the rest of their lives with depression, grief and loss. It never completely leaves them. For the first time, I truly understood why I carry that pain of loss in my heart and why I can’t just “get over it” as some would say.  Some losses are so devastating they never leave you. We agreed I couldn’t be a volunteer for organization but that was the beginning of me finally understanding why I sometimes still feel like that seven year old little girl. The seven year old little girl looking out the door waiting for my Daddy to come home only to see my crying mother walk in with his shoes and pants. I do see Mediums who help me connect with my father. I know he is with me and is guiding me. Everything good that has happened in my life, has been because he led me to it. Being honest with myself and others about my past and how it shaped me is part of self care. It is helping me to live authentically and love unconditionally.

Another way I took care of myself this week is I’ve been focusing on comfort and making myself comfortable. My joints and muscles are always sore. My super firm mattress wasn’t helping me. I bought a memory foam mattress topper and put a thick pad over top of that. I can melt in my bed now. It’s super comfy and I don’t feel the pressure points in my hips on the firm mattress anymore. I am also looking forward to my Espresso Brown Leather Recliner arriving soon. I see a lot of naps happening in that chair 🙂

So, how are you taking care of yourself today? Are you in the flow? Have you said “Yes” to anything? Are you interested in going to Indian Reservation? Are you living authentically and being honest about who you are?

Coming up mid-week on Writing Holistically: Blue Love Poetry

ICYMI: Blue Love Haiku #10

https://writingholistically.com/2018/06/06/blue-love-haiku-10/

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Nanticoke Lenni Lenape Pow-Wow
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Nanticoke Lenni Lenape Pow-Wow
Nanticoke Lenni-Lenape Pow-Wow

Self Care Sunday – Honoring Commitments We Make To Ourselves

Playground Pier - Atlantic City, NJ

Playground Pier – Atlantic City, NJ

Often times people are so used to putting others before themselves they forget that honoring the commitments they make to themselves is an act of self love and self care. Commitments we make to ourselves can define the quality of our life and our health. They can determine our future. They can also indicate how we treat other people.

I was thinking about this because I was rear-ended last week. I was fine. The only damage to my car was a hole in my bumper where his truck’s license plate bolt pierced it. We called cops. The guy is a retired cop and offered to pay cash for the repairs. While the police officer was there, I called my dealership since it’s a leased car. I asked what was the best way to handle it. They agreed no police report and cash instead insurance to keep it off of Carfax reports. I agreed not to file a police report. However, the police officer documented our names and addresses in her daily report in case I needed her help in tracking him down for payment.

I got the estimate a few days ago. It’s close to $400. I contacted the guy who hit me. He asked I wait until after June 1st to get the work done. I agreed. He called me Saturday morning and asked me to meet him at my dealership. When I got there, he not only paid the whole estimate up front for me he also made sure I had rental car for the two days my car would be in the shop. They will order the parts and schedule the job later this week. When I thanked him he said, “it’s important to me to honor my word.” That really stuck with me. I’ve been thinking about it a lot.

He was a 47 year old retired police officer. He could have easily only paid the deposit for the parts or not included the rental car. Instead he wanted to make sure he honored his word. He said he would take care of everything if I didn’t file a police report or go through insurance and he did just that. He paid it upfront and in full so I didn’t have to worry about contacting him again. He made a commitment to himself that honoring his word is a priority in his life. He also set an example for me. It also made me think about commitments I’ve made to myself.

I made a commitment to myself a few years back to live my life consciously; in awareness. That means I choose not to drink alcohol or take drugs on a daily basis to numb myself. I don’t care if others do, I just know it doesn’t work for me. That’s not to say under the right circumstances that I wouldn’t have one glass of delicious red wine with the right person. Trust me, if I do make it to Europe next year or even out west, you better believe I will be having pint in England and a glass of red in Spain. All I am saying is I made a commitment to myself that it can’t be part of my daily life because it makes me fat and stupid 🙂 I guarantee everything I accomplished in the last six years would not have happened if I stayed a party girl.

I also made a commitment to myself to work to the highest level I possibly can. It would be easy for me to work below my skill set and capabilities. However, as Marianne Williamson said, “playing small doesn’t serve the world.” I can offer so much more by allowing my innate skills and abilities to come forth rather than them holding back and allowing others to look good rather than myself.

I made commitment to myself six weeks ago to do strength training exercises twice a week. I already get cardio because I walk a lot; I was still weak and out of shape. As I get older, I am seeing the importance of staying strong. The more inactive you are, the more those old injures hurt. The more you sit still, the harder it is move. The truth is I am still experiencing widespread muscle and joint pain. I am dealing with it without really talking much about it. I have noticed an improvement since I started taking Iodine every day and I also have noticed I am starting to feel stronger. I can also see I am starting to thin out so the strength training is working. The routine I do takes about 30 minutes. I do it twice a week at a local gym that caters to older folks. I honestly think I am the youngest person who goes in there 😂 It works for me. It’s low key and low profile. I get in and get out. It’s a twice a week commitment; no exceptions. While a few coworkers were going to outside bar on the water after we attended a STEM event for work on Friday, I passed. I went to the gym and then walked four miles on the boardwalk to my beautiful spot on the edge of the pier over the water on a beautiful afternoon. I love being out in nature. Remember what I said? Strength training twice a week; no exceptions! I do have good self discipline!

The most important commitment I made to myself is to live authentically and honor the truth of who I am and to honor my body. When I make choices, I go inside. I pray and ask for divine wisdom from God and my angels and guides. I listen to my own intuition. I shut off the noise around me and honor my intuitive wisdom to lead me in the right direction. I very rarely ask anyone for advise or for their opinions. When I do ask someone for guidance, you know I must really trust them because it happens very rarely.

If you compared my life seven years ago to the life I have now, it would be clear the commitments I made to myself in the last seven years have changed my life for the better. I am getting stronger, mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually with each passing day. The future I see for myself is full of love, joy, opportunities and growth. On the career front, I am finally on a good path that is fulfilling and has plenty of opportunities. It’s really up to me to capitalize on them. The funny thing is I shared a big vision that I have for my Program with my boss the other day. He looked at me, smiled and then said, “That could actually happen; you are already working towards it!” Being a strategic thinker is one of my best assets 🙂

Other commitments I made to myself are less serious but equally important because they will create balance in my life:

🔷 I will have more fun and not take myself too seriously – I’m working my way back to fun in all areas of my life. My Dad will be happy about this one 🙂

🔷 I will have more adventures – I am thinking of taking a road trip to pow-wow on June 9th. That seems like fun to me and June 9th is also the 44th anniversary of my father’s death. Then I am hoping to hop a bus to NYC on June 10th to visit the American Indian Museum and tour a couple of Buddhist temples next Sunday 🙂 I may stay overnight because I am trying to catch up to friends for late lunch or early dinner. I am not sure yet of any of this yet because of the weather but I would like a little adventure this weekend. While I’ve been to NYC many times, I’ve never been to Indian Museum or the Buddhist Temples. I am sure there plenty of other off the beaten path things I’ve never done up there too. It’s definitely only a day trip or an overnight trip. I tentatively have to be in DC on June 12th for another work meeting with Program’s Sponsor.

🔷 I will walk the other way on the boardwalk towards the AC pier I love. I was avoiding that all summer last year to stay away from the crowds but I realized I missed the view. The above photo was taken from that pier. I need more of this view in my life. I need to maintain a strong connection to nature and the ocean.

🔷 I will sit on my balcony more. I am going to sit out there to write too. When I write outside, I can hear the ocean rolling in and out. I can hear the birds. I hear kids laughing. I can see folks enjoying the beach and boardwalk.

🔷 I will watch the fireworks Saturday nights from my balcony. The Tropicana will have fireworks every Saturday night through September 9th at 10pm. Well, I am hoping to watch them every Saturday night. Sometimes I am just tired and fall asleep before they start. The below photo was taken from my balcony last night during the fireworks.

🔷 I will go down to my building’s pool. It’s supposedly the best on the Island. I also plan to walk out to the beach more often as it is out my black door 🙂 I was in school full time while working full time last summer. I didn’t have much playtime. I am making a point of not over committing myself this summer.

🔷 I will experiment with riding a bike again 😂 I am not a big fan of bike riding but I want to try it again to see if I like it. If I do, I may buy one to ride around town and on the boards.

🔷 I will invite friends and family down more this summer. My new recliner is arriving in week or so that will be another comfy place for guests to sit. It will also be a comfy place for me to chill 🙂

🔷I will make sure the people I love know they are loved and thought about. I am committed to reaching out in little ways to people who I love to be sure they know I care about them. Smiles, text messages, phones calls, dropping by – it’s happening 😂

🔷 I will research my Spanish, Mexican and Native American Roots. I found out they are all connected. I always knew I was Irish, German and Spanish. The Native American was found in a DNA test. It said it was Native American in Mexico. I learned recently Mexico was originally settled by the Spanish and the Apache Tribe. Apaches were known to be warriors and gifted strategists. I have both of those qualities 🙂 It all makes sense. I’ve always enjoyed Native American Culture. I will also offer to pay for my mom to do a 23andme kit. I’d like to see for sure what her Ancestry DNA is. I am pretty sure she is Irish/English and German. She’s a fair skinned blue-eyed blonde. My dad had dark skin, dark eyes and dark hair. From oral family history, the Spanish and Mexican came from him. I also assume the Native American came from him but I am not completely sure. That’s why I want my Mom to do an Ancestry DNA kit.

🔷 I will spend more time with my Mom. There’s a party she wants to go to in few a weeks. Because there is still a family war going on and I am Switzerland, it’s best for me to go up and take her. So I rearranged my schedule to be her date. She was relieved and happy.

So, my question for you today is – what commitments have you made to yourself? Are you looking after you own happiness and fulfillment? Are you loved? Are you inspired by those around you? Are you having fun? Are you creating balance in your life? Are you choosing happiness?

Coming up later this week on Writing Holistically – Blue Love Haiku #10 (it’s already written)

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Tropicana Fireworks - Atlantic City, NJTropicana Fireworks – Atlantic City, NJ
Team Mexico - Si Se Puede!

Team Mexico – Si Se Puede!

Threads – Blue Love Poetry

Threads – Blue Love Poetry
By: Linda A. Long

You are
Part of my story
Woven into
The pages
Of my life
You are
Sewn into the
Fabric of my soul
With threads
Of red and blue

The red thread
Is for my love
And passion for you
The love and passion
Connecting
My heart
To yours
The blue thread
Is for the color
Of your blue eyes
Blue eyes that pierce
My soul
Sparking my creativity
Igniting me
With desire

You are
Part of my story
Etched into
The deepest part
Of my soul
You are my soul’s
Lustful conspirator
Welcomed friend
And stabilizing energy
My soul
Is at home near yours
Our flame burns
Stronger when
We are together

You are
Part of my story
A story
That is still
Being written
Chapter by chapter
One chapter
Moves us
Apart to learn
And grow
Perhaps the next moves
Us together again
Maybe there
Is a plot twist
That brings
Your hand
Into my mine
Could an
Unexpected event
Kiss your lips to mine
Or maybe God
Aligns the Universe
To let our love rule

Our story
Isn’t over
Our threads
Are still entwined
Connecting
Your soul to mine
Holding you
With my red threads
Of passion and love
Holding me
With the blue threads
Of your beautiful eyes
Our story
Continues

It is written
Into my soul
With red and blue threads
You are
Part of my story
The story of
Red and blue love
The story of us
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A Poem for Blue Love on May 27th 💙 I hope he is part of my future.

While I was in DC overnight I visited the “Museum of the American Indian”. Something about it felt very spiritual. Like spirit was leading me there. I remembered my sister, Sandy, went to Montana to visit a Indian Reservation. I also remembered how much I love the Native American culture. Only recently I learned through 23andMe that I am 5% Native American. I am 70% Irish, 15% Spanish, 10% German and 5% Native American which they also had subtitled Mexico. I am not sure if that means my ancestor’s tribe was near Mexico. My grandfather was born in San Antionio and his mother was from Spain also known as Iberia in the 1800. Anyway, this all reminded me that the Blackfeet Indian Reservation in Montana hosts Volunteer vacations. Something about that feels right to me. So that is added to the list with Spain as possible destinations for 2019. Or at least do some work on investigation the Native American roots.

A Raven landed on my balcony yesterday afternoon. I was in the kitchen when I heard it calling me from the balcony. I could not take a photo of it because it landed a foot away from my phone and tablet. I was afraid to go close to it. I wasn’t sure if it would attack and I didn’t want to scare it off. It was gigantic, gorgeous, midnight black and majestic. It squawked for a solid ten minutes as if it was talking to me. I stood in awe as it talked. I said a prayer and made a wish. I then watched it fly off northwest. In Native American culture Ravens signify change and transformation. They are also sent to deliver messages from spirit. It certainly seemed like it was telling me something 😂

This has been an interesting weekend. I think Spirit has been around me a lot. A Midnight Black Raven landed on my balcony and talked to me for 10 minutes. I had a craving for a Coke and went to Wawa. The first one in the line had Blue Love’s last name on it and it was his birthday. That felt like synchonicity. Like I was meant to find that on that day. There is such a strong connection between us! 💙 I learned I do not need bioidentical hormone replacement YET because it appears the Idoine, Maca and Vitamin D protocol is balancing my hormones. The clock starts all over again and back to Peri-Menopause. I guess my Integrative Doc’s theory was right. I had a Iodine Deficiency and because I wasn’t getting enough Iodine my thyroid was storing it in a small goiter. My thyroid most likely was blocking my hormones. By fixing the Idoine deficiency we also started to rebalance my hormones. I feel better and my cycle started again. Lastly, I had a visitation dream from my best friend last night. I told her the last time we talked she was welcomed to visit me in my dreams. When she showed up last night, she apologized for talkng so long to get here. I heard her laugh again. I started crying and told her how much I missed her. Definitely felt like a lot of spiritual activity going on around me this weekend.

Here’s a link to poem I wrote about Seven Ravens..

https://writingholistically.com/2014/03/31/seven-ravens-love-sex-poetry-repost/