I’ve been noticing a lot of posts on Instagram lately stating that things are easy when you are in the “flow” with the Universe. Folks are asserting that what is meant for you should always be easy and come without resistance. While I understand the concept, I see things a little differently; here’s why.
Sometimes the struggle is part of our lesson. Sometimes the struggle is where we grow, learn and adapt. If we never struggle, perhaps we never truly learn how to persevere. If we don’t persevere through adversity, perhaps we don’t learn our depth of strength and fortitude. I think guiding folks to believe things should always be easy, perhaps trains them to avoid the very struggle that is supposed to make them stronger and more resilient. If folks are always expecting things to be easy, they will not be prepared to rise to life’s challenges. Do you think it’s easy for a butterfly to break out of a cocoon? Do you think it’s easy for a drug addict to stay clean? The process is a struggle but the end result is magnificent.
From my experience, you can still be doing what is meant for you, still be in the flow and still be in alignment with the Universe even when you feel uncomfortable, frustrated and burnt out. Yes, it’s true – you can. If you were intended to learn perseverance, things will not be easy. I think the key is to ask yourself if you are growing, upleveling or expanding in your current situation. If you are, then you are still in alignment. If you aren’t, you are most likely no longer in alignment. We were not meant to be stagnant beings. We were meant to evolve, change and grow.
Here’s an example from my own life…
In December 2017, I accepted a one year assignment doing a job completely out of my comfort zone. The application and interview process were easy. Things went smoothly. I felt good. I knew this experience was meant for me. I applied and got the job without any resistance. I was definitely in the flow.
I’ve been in the job since early February. I’ve had many successes and have received a lot of encouragement from leadership. But this job is frustrating! It is stressful and it is hard at times. So hard at times I’ve considered giving up – I’ve persevered. Even though it can be challenging at times, that doesn’t mean it was not meant for me. It doesn’t mean I am out of alignment. What it means is that I am learning something about myself through these challenges. I am being force to uplevel myself. I am being asked to work at a level higher than ever before.
This job forces me to have daily interaction with internal and external stakeholder at all levels of the corporate ladder. I interact all day; it’s exhausting at times. If you know me, I am introverted. I could hide in my cube all day not saying a word. In this job, I must engage; therefore, I am stretching and growing. I am also trying to change company culture and champion for the proverbial underdog. Not as easy as it sounds. My Sponsor asked me to help her shape the future. I am her boots on the ground. Do you think asking folks to change the way the they do business is easy? We all know how folks feel about change. Lol 😂 This job has bit of sales component to it. If you know me, you know I HATE small talk. 😂 This job involves auditing current practices. Folks just love that I am peeking into their business practices. (sarcasm) Lol. 😂 BUT, I am growing through these challenges because I am persevering.
Most importantly, I need to be mindful through this experience. The key is for me to be aware if emotionally, physically and mentally the job starts depleting me instead of motivating me. I need to be in tuned with my soul to know if it’s no longer rewarding and then take steps to walk away. I need to use my intuition to sense when I’ve learned all I am meant to learn from this experience.
I have six months left in this role. I don’t know what will happen. I do know I can’t push myself like this long term but I am hoping that within the next six months with the help of the Execs, the tide will turn or perhaps my focus will be changed by leadership. I am hoping it continues to be rewarding but I am open to all other opportunities and experiences just in case it’s not.
Wrapping back to my point, I was meant to learn through this experience. I was meant to learn I can operate at this level. I meant to know that I was underestimated and held back in the past. I don’t think I was held back intentional it was just the culture of the organization I used to work in. I was meant to understand I can sit at a table with the highest level of executives and hold my own. I was meant to prove this to myself. I was meant to persevere. So, hell yes! You can still be in the flow with the Universe even though you are stuggling. You just have to make sure you are struggling for the right reasons. If you are growing, expanding and living outside of your comfort zone, then you are definitely doing what was meant for you!
Lastly, I went to a STEM training class late in the day. I was going to skip it but I went so I could just sit back and absorb information instead of talk 😂 As I walked in the door, I bumped into a stakeholder who owes me something that is on my CRITICAL PATH! I was planning to reach out to him later in the week if I didn’t hear from him. We sat together and talked for a few minutes before class began. We came up with plan on how we can move forward. We scheduled a meeting with our “Chief” while we were there. We both committed to possibly launching two grant challenges at the same time running Oct to May. Yep, two at the same time.(There’s reason why it has to be two). It’s really complicated BUT it is doable! He’s the science and mentorship guy for academia while I am administration and project management. We have a few more meetings set up to work things out but we are briefing this to my Sponsor and Execs on Aug 20th. Wish me luck 😂😂
So, do you think I was in the flow today? I went to a meeting I was going to skip and ended up getting the missing piece to the puzzle that has been keeping me up at night for a week 😂 Yep, I was in the flow for sure this afternoon 🙌