Self Care Sunday ~ Emotional Intelligence

Emotional inteliligence

I participated in an Emotional Intelligence (EI) Workshop that was offered in work to non-managers as part of their efforts to encourage employees to “lead from where they are”. The course was based on the best selling book, “Emotional Intelligence 2.0” by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves. I really enjoyed the class. It will help me in work. It will also be beneficial in my own Holistic Health Coaching Business.

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According to Psychology Today, “Emotional intelligence refers to the ability to identify and manage one’s own emotions, as well as the emotions of others.” The four competences of EI are Self Awareness, Self Management, Social Awareness and Relationship Management. As part of the workshop we did a test or assessment to see how we scored in each area. While I was above average in each competency, my highest competency is in Social Awareness. That means I am good at reading the room and sensing the emotions of others around me. While my lowest competency was still above average, my lowest competency is in Self Management. This means I need to work on my ability to manage my emotions and coping skills. This was not a surprise me. I’ve trained myself over the years to control my reactionary impulses. However, I do sometimes let my emotions get the best of me which leads to stress and anxiety. It also leads to me holding my emotions in until I almost spontaneously combust. Those who know me really well, know I tend to hold my breadth and not breathe. I will confess, Blue Love has gotten good at knowing when I’ve gotten to that point and always encourages me to breathe for a minute or two. I am taking private yoga classes and my teacher notices I do it while holding difficult poses so she is helping me be more aware of it.

As part of the EI workshop, we worked on personal action plans and identified two or key areas we wanted to work on in the near term. The course also provide each student with a set of Job Aids as tips and actions to help facilitate awareness. I can’t share the Job Aids because they are all branded but below is the Self Management Strategies portion from one Job Aid. I’ve chosen to work on:   Breathe Right, Smile and laugh more and Focus on freedoms, rather than limitations.


I was watching my friend Laura’s YouTube Channel, LauraGYoga, recently. Laura is a local Yoga Therapist and Occupational Therapist. She discusses the importance of Breath Work in alot on her videos and podcasts. So I bought one of the books she recommend, The The Breathing Book by Donna Farhi. I am working through some of the exercises now to learn how to stop holding my breathe. I also signed up for our Emotional Intelligence 2.0 workshop at work which is in two weeks.


A work update:  work has been getting better. Leadership has taken steps to take some of the burden off of me. I heard a few months ago about a new non-profit being stood up to handle workforce development issues in our industry but it was stalled for a few months. It looks like it is moving forward. The project I am currently working on would fit under that umbrella. We aren’t sure if this will affect the current grant award cycle I am working on because it will take time for them to stand it up. However, future award cycle could be moved to that organization. It looks like it will be based in Virginia or DC. It will be just fine for me to move on to another project once this one gets the money out the door – the answer to my prayers actually 🤣

A yoga update: I just had my second private class on Friday. I just love the private classes.  My teacher, Heidi, is personal friend and owns a local studio, Hummingbird Yoga. She is a great teacher.  We decided to do a moderately difficult practice slowly so we could assess my stamina and weak areas.  Honestly, I did pretty good.  I keep really nice alignment in asanas(poses).  I need to build some strength.  She gave me some areas to work on at home. Saturday is a complete and total rest day for me.

While my private classes are more challenging and last an hour or longer, my home practices are usually only 30 minutes and are balanced between stretching and strengthening.  Heidi and I both believe my body could handle teacher training, if I want to do it the future.  For now, I am just enjoying being back to regular yoga practice and doing breath work. I am taking things very slowly to avoid injury or doing too much too soon. The below pose is called Flip Dog or, The Wild Thing pose.  You move into it by first starting in Down Dog Pose and slowly  flipping over. A modification for this to come into it from Side Plank.   I used to love to “flip my dog”.   I haven’t tried it yet again but I am heading that direction 🙂

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 Have you learned anything interesting this week? Have you ever taken an Emotional Intelligence Assessment? If not, there is one available on Psychology Today. You can access it by following this link:

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