Self Care Sunday – ArchAngel Michael Protect Us

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I started writing today’s Self Care Sunday post two different times on different topics. Sometimes that how writing is. Sometimes words flow effortlessly and other times you just have to keep writing garbage you find a thread you want to follow. Today’s post contains snippets of three different topics and a prayer to ArchAngel Michael for protection.

Mom
My first attempt to write this blog was about my Mom and aging. She will be 80 in May. My mom and I are very close. My mom is feisty and still has all of her marbles. Heck, she might have some of my marbles too 😂 Her mind is strong but her physical body is slowing her down. My mom and I have always had a combative relationship. We are the best friends who argue and tell each other the brutal truth. We use curse words with each other. We are fighting one minute and laughing the next minute about how ridiculous we are. We usually end most phone call by saying “I love you”. It’s been this way my entire life. She says I came out self-sufficient and haven’t needed her since I was a toddler 😂

My mom is a drama queen. I’ve tried to be more patient and tolerant of her daily dramas recently but she really can push the envelope. She called me yesterday in full meltdown about nothing and I stopped her in her tracks by saying, “I kinda have my own little drama going on lately so we aren’t doing yours today. Got it?” She started laughing and said, “Got it!” And then she moved onto another topic. The one self care tactic I’ve learned to use in my relationship with my mom is unapologetic enforcement of my personal boundaries. It took a while for her to “get the picture” but now she knows when she’s getting close to my line. In return, I am working on being more patient with her while also telling her I love her regularly so she knows how I really feel about her. My heart is full of love and I want to be sure to share it with my mom💙

51 & Still Sexy
My next attempt to write this blog about was aging myself and Menopause. Yep, I am like most 50 year old women. I having hot flashes, night sweats, not sleeping great. I have to keep strict control over my calories and exercise every day to fight off the menopause weight gain and some days it starts to affect how I feel about myself. It all sucks. I’ve always been attractive and most men have thought of me as sexy. Some days I worry if that will still be true as I get older —— It’s hard for women as we age. People judge us by how we look. I haven’t been feeling my normal sexiness lately and it wasn’t until Saturday that I realized why my sparkle is feeling less sparkley lately. It’s because I haven’t been working. I haven’t been getting dressed up in skirts and high heels, putting on make-up and lipstick on and styling my hair lately. I’ve been wearing yoga clothes with my hair pulled back for two damn weeks. A lot of folks I work with do not get dressed for work; they dress casual or wear jeans. I get dressed up and do my make-up because it makes me feel good and it makes me feel sexy. I like when men notice me. Sometimes feeling good is about looking good. At least for me it is…I wonder if men realize how hard women are on themselves. I also think I’ve been less frisky because I haven’t been around Blue Love enough lately to enjoy the spark of our eyes locking. I love the way I feel when that happens. We must have quality eye contact soon 😉💙😘

Good Men Quote Edmund Burke

So I can’t honestly say this week’s Self Care Sunday post has any great morsels of Self Care wisdom. Just some week’s it’s enough to keep your head above water and have faith that good always triumphs over evil.

Action: Prayer to ArchAngel Michael

ArchAngel Michael is the ArchAngel of protection. He is closely associated with law enforcement. When you need protection, pray to ArchAngel Michael. His spirit and energy can be in all places at all times. Josie Grouse, https://www.josiegrouse.com, teaches that signs of ArchAngel Michael being nearby or hearing your prayers are 7s, 911, law enforcement, the name “Michael” and symbols of protection like swords or crosses. This week’s action is to start calling on ArchAngel Michael for protection. He is available to you at all times. There are many prayers to ArchAngel Michael to you by doing a simple google search.

Please Join me in saying a prayer for protection of our Nation:

Archangel Micheal
Protector and
Guardian Angel
I call upon you
To protect
The innocent
And bring
The evil to justice
Please protect
Our Nation
From malicious actors
And help
Good men
Find the courage
To rise up
To defeat evil

Archangel Michael
I ask for your protection
From negative forces
Allow the love
In my heart to
Be a source of light
For the rest of world
Allow my light
To heal their darkness
Allow my love
To fill their hearts
Use me Archangel Michael
Use me to heal the world

ArchAngel Michael Prayer

ArchAngel Michael Prayer

Remember to put a little love in the world and say the Loving Kindness Prayer for someone special. I often like to say it for special people in my life as well for groups such as my family, friends, coworkers and all beings.

Loving Kindness Prayer💙
May you be safe
May you be healthy
May you be happy
May you be loved

I claim love as my vibration for 2019.
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Everything is always working out for my highest good 💙🦋

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Self Care Sunday – Deep Thoughts and Stress Management

Kindness

Deep Thoughts
I’ve been thinking a lot about fantasy vs. reality this week. Often reality doesn’t measure up to the fantasy we create in our minds. Folks fantasize that new jobs will be so much better than their current jobs . People fantasize about retirement only to find out they liked working. People fantasize about magical first kisses only to find the real first kiss to be a bit awkward and filled with nervousness. This doesn’t mean that reality sucks. Quite the contrary. Reality may be perfect but our illusions and fantasies created unachievable expectations.

When we fantasize, we create expectations based on false narratives that often sets us up for disappointment. This happens when we live in the future rather than living in the present (now). We tell ourselves things like “My life will so much happier once I…buy that house, retire, meet my soulmate, lose 20lbs.” We fantasize so much about the future that we lose satisfaction and happiness today.

I am not saying people shouldn’t fantasize. I love to daydream and fantasize. I am saying that we need be cognizant that the reality may not match what we create in our minds. This doesn’t mean our reality is bad or lacking something, it means we expected too much and made satisfaction unachievable. I’ve found that I am happier by scaling back my expectations in all aspects of my life. I’ve grounded myself in gratitude for what’s good in this moment while still fantasizing about what might be magical in the future. The key takeaway from this to find a way to be happy now in this moment while you are in limbo and waiting for something in future. Keep one foot in reality while you are daydreaming about the magical future.

ACTION: Ground yourself in the present moment. Find a way to be happy right now while you are fantasizing about the future. Remember the reality won’t always match the fantasy but it doesn’t mean it’s any less magical.

Fantasy

Stress Management
This week has been a stress management challenge. So far I am doing a great job but I’ve had my moments.

I’ve decided to open my mind a bit. I am updating my resume and doing an exploration of jobs outside of the “company”. Of course, I don’t really want to leave the “company” but I think it’s good to take the opportunity to see what’s available on the outside. Who knows what’s out there? Maybe it’s time to start opening my mind to what life looks like on the outside? Maybe my dream job will land in my lap :-).

Here’s what I’ve learned during this “break”:

✅ I do not need a cleaning lady. I can do it myself and save the money. I need to keep more money in my savings for the possibility of future shutdowns.
✅ I’ve learned I was spending too much money on sushi and need to cut back on that permanently.
✅ I’ve found GREAT yoga practices on YouTube that I love. I do not need to pay for a studio membership or to take classes at studio. I have everything I need at home. I’ve practiced yoga everyday since mid December. It’s been great to have focus and move and sweat. I’m definitely feeling stronger and more flexible. Juiciness in my hips is back 😊
✅ I realized I can walk in condo from one end to the other on days the weather is bad and still close the rings on my Apple Watch every day 😊 This eliminates the weather excuse and doesn’t require me paying for gym membership to use the treadmill.
✅ I’ve been cooking at home and doing meal prep like I should have been doing for the last few months. I made Sausage, Broccoli Rabe and White Bean Soup and Chicken Caccatori that were both AWESOME. I froze a few portions for future meals 🙂

ACTION:
Look for ways to manage stress without resorting to drugs and alcohol. Here a few suggestions:

✅ Exercise
✅ Walking
✅ Mediation
✅ Yoga
✅ Talk to friend
✅ Watch a funny TV show or movie
✅ Make a budget for yourself and stick to it
✅ Clean your house, clean out your garage or junk drawer
✅ Tidy up! Organize your house; an organized house carries better universal energy. I’ve been watching “Tidying Up with Marie Kondo” on Netflix. Honestly, just looking at those messy houses stresses me out. I am a “Everything has a place” kind of girl. Before I go to bed each night, I walk around and put everything back in it’s place 😊 Universal energy moves easier in a tidy house 😂😂
✅ Stay busy; don’t sit and think all day
✅ Turn the TV off. Watch a little news but don’t obsess over it all day
✅ Hug someone or call a friend
✅ Help another human being
✅ Read a book, Color, draw, write, make love
✅ PRAY; pray is healing

Remember to put a little love in the world with the Loving Kindness Prayer

Loving Kindness Prayer💙
May you be safe
May you be healthy
May you be happy
May you be loved

I claim love as my vibration for 2019.
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Everything is always working out for my highest good 💙🦋

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Self Care Sunday – Lesson Learned

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This Self Care Sunday I am reflecting on lessons learned from the events of last week to prepare myself better for the future.

I was determined this holiday seasons was going to be better than those I’ve had in the past. It was 😊 I did everything to prepare for it. I did everything to ensure Christmas week would be as stressless as possible. The lesson here is some things are out of our control but we still must adjust ourselves and live through these situation anyway.

Gratefully, my family Christmas was great this year. I cooked and baked with Mom on Christmas Eve. Our Christmas Day Brunch was a success. All family members, including those who are feuding, attended. Everything went well and it was especially good for my mother to have everyone around her. I stayed with my mom for two days; I was well aware that she will be 80 in May and she seems to be smaller and more fragile than she was in the past. The lesson here was about having respecting and honor for the woman who sacrificed so much for me and my siblings. It’s also about patience as she moves slower and gratitude that I am lucky enough to still have my mother 💙I’m also grateful I had the kids here for a couple of days. Those relationships are important to me. As hectic as it was, it was fun having them here 💙

I found out bad news on Christmas Day by accident. I walked into the kitchen and heard my sister in law tell my sister that my brother has a mass in his lungs. His appointment at Fox Chase Cancer Center was on the 26th. This news presented me with conflicting feelings because of the complex relationship I have with my brother. He hurt me more than any other man in my entire life; I’ve only recently started to allow myself to heal from those events. I’ve decided to focus on praying for his well-being and supporting my mother instead of indulging too much into the heaviness of my feelings. The lesson I took away from this is just because karma finally catches up to someone doesn’t mean you will be happy about it or feel vindicated by their suffering. It presents a new opportunity for compassion and empathy; perhaps it will lead to true forgiveness finally.

I am not planning to go out for New Years Eve. NYE is an awkward night for me to go out. First, I would not have anyone to kiss at midnight ☹️😂Second, I am sober; I can’t even have a glass of wine to take the edge off. Going on sober and not having anyone to kiss at midnight on NYE isn’t fun 👎The whole night is uncomfortable. In the past, I’ve gone away for NYE on yoga retreats. I didn’t feel like traveling or spending the money this year. I’ll be doing something spiritual to ring in the new year but odds are I may not be awake at midnight 😂😂

The lesson for me this week is to be a good human. Help folks as much as possible. Stay humble and remember life is about more than my selfish needs and wants. Also, don’t be reactionary & lash out in frustration, you escalate problems & make yourself look like an ass. Self control, impulse control, self discipline and measured responses are the characteristics of a strong leader.

As many of you know, I believe in the power of numbers. Numerology plays an important part in my life. Numbers are signs that give coded messages. So, 222 is my favorite repetitive number series. 222 is about partnerships, love and things working out of the best. Whenever I see 222, I repeat my affirmation. “Everything is always working out for my highest good.” And I often say the Loving Kindness Prayer for Blue Love when I see 222. I stopped in the local Boscov’s to pick up bras with a gift card I got for Christmas 💁‍♀️When I got back into my car, I looked up and saw the license plate on the car directly in front of me had “222” in it. Just as I started saying my affirmation, I saw the car next to it had “222” in its license plate too. Now, that is a sign from the Universe so I took the opportunity to send Blue Love LOVE with the Loving Kindness Prayer too 🙂 “Everything is always working out for my highest good!” 💙

222

ACTION: This week’s action is to reflect on the events of your week or even the events of 2018. What lessons have you learned? How can you take better care of yourself financially? Can you help others out of your abundance? What can you do to make things better for another person? Also remember to say the Loving Kindness Prayer for someone special; put some love into the world💙

Loving Kindness Prayer
May you be safe
May you be healthy
May you be happy
May you be loved

Everything is always working out for my highest good 💙🦋

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LOVE

Self Care Sunday – Love is the answer

Love is the answer Einstein

Shine Your Love
Dear God
I ask
For the light
Of your love
To shine down
On the Universe
And fill
The hearts of men
With goodwill
And kindness
Shine your love

I ask
For common ground
Between adversaries
To be found
To end conflict
I ask for
Protection of
Our Nation
From our aggressors
I ask for you
To help us find peace
Shine your love

Holy Spirit
Use me
Use me
To spread your light
Fill me
With your love
And I will
Shine it
From my
Soul into the world
I ask you
To heal
The world
Shine your love
through me
Shine your love

Dear God
Shine your love
Into the world
And provide
Comfort to those
Who are suffering
Shelter and food to those
Who are in need
Consciousness
To those
Who are still spiritually asleep
And humility
To those who
Are driven by their egos
Shine your love
God
Shine your love

Only love
Can heal the world
Shine your love God
And
Heal the world

Other than normal Holiday stress, the government shutdown and politics in general are weighing heavy on my mind this weekend. With so much heartache and stress in the world, I wrote this poem for love and healing to counterpunch the negative energy with loving energy. I believe it is only love that can heal the world. Love is the answer. I even hit POTUS with the Loving Kindness Prayer today hoping to put a little love in the Grinch’s heart 😂

So I searched on “Love is the answer” to use for a graphic for this post. I found hundreds of variations of the above image of Albert Einstein. It looked cool so I chose it but I am still not sure if it’s actual artwork or he actually said it 😉

I’ve said a special prayer for my family this year. My family has had long standing family feud going on. It’s made the holidays especially stressful the last few years. I walked out of Christmas dinner in tears last year after only one hour and drove 90 minutes back home because it was just absolute chaos. I made it clear to everyone that I wasn’t putting myself through it again. My sister volunteered to have an alcohol-free Christmas Brunch for everyone at her house. Her house is neutral territory. So far everyone is attending. I am hoping things go well. My mom has been a bit fragile lately; I am not sure either one of us could handle the stress this year.

My vacation was scheduled for December 21st to January 2nd. Well, it’s turning into a last minute unpaid forced “vacation”. I am lucky though. I got a call today letting me know the way I am funded was changed so my furlough doesnt start until Thursday. I asked them to double check that to be sure it’s right. Optimistically, it could end December 27th when Congress comes back into Session but I actually think it will go until at least January 3rd when Democrats take the House & Trump has an “Out” to cave. While it stresses me out, I should be able to manage as long as it doesn’t go on for too far into January. There are others who are worst off and I hope for everyone’s sake this resolved sooner than later. I am honestly against any “wall” along our southern border; I view a “wall” as a racist expression to keep brown people out. Also, there are technological ways they can secure the border (Drones, etc.) that would be more efficient than an medieval wall. My boss said to me the other day, “If you build an 11 foot wall, they will build a 12 foot ladder!” With that said, I could see Democrats digging in and waiting it out until January 3rd.

As for me personally, I believe in putting human beings and kindness above politics. I would like to see a compromise to resolve this next week so folks who live paycheck to paycheck and those who are collateral damage in this standoff aren’t completely stressed out the entire holiday season. Many just spent money for Christmas presents and some folks in contractor positions won’t get back pay. While there’s no guarantee I will either, I strongly suspect I will. I believe people should come first; politics second.

I just finished my Christmas shopping yesterday. I used my credit card so I could conserve the cash I have just in case I miss a paycheck. I also told my mom her annual Christmas bonus ($$$) 😂 will be a little late this year. I need to hold onto to cash until I know for sure when I am going back to work. I am leaving for Philly on Monday. I am baking and cooking with my mom on Christmas Eve. My sister is having Christmas Brunch and then I am bringing my three nieces (14, 13 and 9) down to my house overnight Wednesday to Thursday. We are going to a movie matinee and dinner. Then they will open their presents at my house and I am taking them to Cereal Town in the Ocean Casino for breakfast on Thursday before driving them home. I am scaling back on all of my other plans to conserve cash since I don’t know how long I’ll be out of work. I am playing everything else by ear. I’ll need to adjust plans according to finances and my energy levels.

ACTION: This week’s action is to put a little love in the world 💙 Say the below Loving Kindness prayer for healing in our world. Do something good for another human being. Send loving kindness to a friend. Do something good for a stranger. Help me turn the tide in the Universe. Let’s help good triumph over evil.

Loving Kindness Prayer
May you be safe
May you be healthy
May you be happy
May you be loved

Love is my vibration

Everything is always working out for my highest good 💙🦋

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Self Care Sunday – Love is the highest vibration

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Yep, this Self Care Sunday my soul is shinin’ like a MF! 🌟☀️😂😂😂

I’ve been reflecting on love lately. This Self Care Sunday is about Love. Love of self. Love of others. Unconditional love vs. conditional love. BIG LOVE! LOVE over Fear! Love 💙

It’s really only been in the last year or so of my life that I’ve learned to truly love and accept myself. It was also this year that I allowed myself to see the high price I paid in my life for not valuing myself and loving myself; I could not open myself up to receive of love. It was easier for me to be the giver than it ever was to receive.

To receive love, we must open our hearts, expose our souls and be vulnerable to another. Life experiences fractured my trust in others. Without trust there can be no vulnerability. To receive love we must allow another to see the shame we carry from past, feel the anxiety the weighs in our hearts and stand with us in our fear of loss and heartbreak.

I learned to love myself self by sitting with my pain and feeling it. I grieved for what I lost. I cried for what might have been. I mourned for what was taken away from me and I forgave the person I was in the past for not being strong enough to heal. I gave myself with the same loving kindness I give others. In doing that, I released a burden that really wasn’t completely mine to carry and made space in my heart and my life to receive love.

Unconditional love, to love without conditions… It is conceptually beautiful but not always easy in practice. Unconditional love doesn’t mean you accept whatever someone offers you and it certainly doesn’t mean you should be a doormat. For me, unconditional love is loving without expectations (strings) of reciprocation or demonstrative proof that I am loved in return. Unconditional love is BIG LOVE.

Over the last year, I’ve leaned heavy into prayer to help transmute any negative feelings. I’ve been using the Loving Kindness Prayer to pull myself back when I am feeling a bit challenged by love. I find it to be especially effective in helping me send love from a distance to loved ones. By sending loving kindness to a friend, a coworker, a sick relative or even someone who I’ve been at odds with at times helps me to raise my spirits and light my heart with the healing light of love.

Try using the Loving Kindness prayer by first sending loving kindness to your soulmate or twin flame or anyone who holds special place in your heart and in your life. The exchange of loving kindness through prayer will create synergy and good energy between you. Once you get into the habit of saying this prayer on a daily basis, then start using it for everyone you want to hit with some good energy 🌟 It will lift your spirits when you are down and give you peace when you start to feel anxiety creep up. Sending loving thoughts will also raise your spirit vibration and make your spiritual energy radiant. Love is the highest vibrational force in the Universe.

Love is the highest vibration

ACTION: This week’s action is to consider incorporating the Loving Kindness Prayer into your daily activities. Make it a habit.

Here’s an example of how it works:

When a strong flash of Blue Love comes into my mind, I often take a moment to send him love 💙😘🔥I visualized him in my mind’s eye, I quietly say his name to myself and then say this prayer:

May you be safe
May you be healthy
May you be happy
May you be loved

It’s a beautiful way to send good energy to someone 💙 Do it for 30 days straight and see how you change. Your vibraiton will automatically be lifted by the love you sending out into the Universe.

Yoga update
I’ve been doing a 30 minute slow gentle yoga practice at home each night this week. I am going to do this for the next month and build up to getting back into a studio. I am not pushing to my edge; I am taking it slow and using modifications. I am just slowly moving through a practice of Sun Salutations with Chaturanga & Cobra, Warrior I & II, Tree, a twist, wide leg Child’s Pose and Savasana. My foot is sore but is steady in the balance pose, Tree 👍It feels good to get back to yoga. I really do love yoga. I have a gigantic playlist of yoga and mantra music; AyKanna is my FAVORITE 💙 “Longtime Sunshine” is the closing prayer/song/mantra in Kundalini yoga practices. AyKanna’s version is in the YouTube video at the bottom of the post.

Music Yoga Mantas

Career Update
Remember that prayer I posted about my career a few days ago? Remember I asked for a SIGN? Well, it worked quick 😂😂 I received Sign #1 when my boss dropped by my cube early Friday to relay Execs asked him to do whatever he could KEEP ME 😊🦋😂 He asked what I was thinking. We talked for a while about what that would look like; what I wanted and needed. Just for the record, a raise and promotion weren’t at the top of the list. I will certainly negotiate for them as we start to close on this next month but it’s more about doing work I enjoy and working were there are opportunities for someone like me. If I am doing work I enjoy, raises and promotions will flow naturally as a result of me doing my best work. It would be short-sighted to make this about money when it’s actually about fulfillment.

I spent almost nine years working in an organization doing work I didn’t enjoy. I was able to deal with the lack of career satisfaction for a few years because I worked closely with someone I care about; I enjoyed the years I worked closely with him. I enjoyed taking care of him, helping and supporting him. Once I knew he advanced to the next level permanently, I felt it was time for me to find career satisfaction for myself. I am in a better position to do that where I am. I am now working to the full extent of my skills and abilities and I am fulfilled in the work I am doing. That’s what this is all about.

Not long after chatting with my boss I bumped in a former coworker in the hallway. As he past me, he stopped me and said, “Linda, Do you have a minute?” He said, “You are in another group now…Is it as chaotic, insane and TOXIC there as it is here?” Yep, he said TOXIC! My answer was, “No, IT IS NOT.” We had an interesting conversation. I don’t know this guy well. We never had a real conversation before. So him stopping me, asking this question and sharing information with me that I didn’t know was my SIGN that nothing has changed. They would use me up and burn me out all over again. This was sign #2. I told him he was my sign from God and an answer to a prayer. He almost cried. Seriously, his eyes welled up 😊He told me he was a Christian and believes in signs from God too 😇 Yep, that career prayer was answered in two days, with two signs within two hours. 222 Prayers work 🙂

222

Everything is always working out for my highest good 💙🦋

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Self Care Sunday – Vanity & Intentions

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My posts have been a bit heavy lately so I am lightening it up in today’s Self Care post about my vanity and intentions. I would like to say that I am spiritual enough to not be vain but apparently that’s not true and I am ok with it😂

The Grey Experiment
I went for a haircut earlier this week. My hair stylist says to me, “Are you intentionally letting your hair grow out all grey?” 😂 I said, “No, I am just tardy coloring it.” She says, “Wow, I’ve never seen you this grey.” 😂 I wasn’t offended but it did make me wonder what I would look like with all grey hair. It would certainly be less maintenance! As of Friday morning I was going to experiment for a few weeks and not color my hair. Well, that didn’t last very long… On Friday I went to get a massage and Chiropractic adjustment. My Massage Therapist and Chiropractor share an office. They were both there when I walked in and were talking about aging. I told them about my conversation with my hair stylist. After they got done laughing, my Chiropractor(a 45 year old guy that I’ve been friends with for a very long time) says, “You are too young looking and pretty to be all grey this soon! Color your hair. I would tell my wife the same thing!” And then he winked at me 😂I figured a guy’s opinion was good confirmation. So much for my grey experiment. After my adjustment and massage, I bought a box of color. My hair is no longer grey.

For the record, I am a BIG FAN of grey hair on men! When I was in my twenties I dated a guy in his late 40s. He had salt & pepper grey hair with beautiful blue eyes. I was wild about him. Blue Love has salt & pepper hair with beautiful blue eyes too. I am still wild about him even after all these years too 😉💙🔥😂 Yep, I am a BIG FAN of grey hair on men but not on me yet!….

Photo Shoot
Thursday was a great day in work. A vision I had a few months ago came to fruition exactly as I envisioned it. I hosted seven young men, the Dean of Engineering and a Professor from a Historically Black College and University (HBCU) at my workplace. I chaperoned them on a tour of our Research & Development facilities and then gave them the opportunity to present their research to my Director and leadership team in a large state of the art executive conference room. We also had mentors available to them for the last hour of the visit to discuss jobs and internships. I don’t know who was smiling more me or my Director during the student presentations.😊It was really rewarding to offer the young men the opportunity and it was also rewarding to see my vision come to fruition. It gave me some ideas for the future. It felt good to do some good in the world.

Our Communications Office is writing a news article about the visit and a photographer was with us all day. The Communications Office sent me the photos they plan to use in the article. Don’t ya know they chose the one group shot I was apparently scratching my leg😂 OMFG! I asked them if they could choose another. They laughed 😂Then told me I looked fine and I shouldn’t worry about it. I said, “But seriously, it looks like I was scratching my leg in the photo!” He started laughed again and said, “The photos are great. You were awesome today! RELAX!” Can you understand why I would want them to choose a different photo?😂 Anyways, I think I lost that battle; I’m pretty sure they will use the photo even though they took over 300 photos that day…sigh 😂

BOOBS
I have big boobs. I can’t hide them but now I have a scar in my cleavage from a cyst that was surgically removed last year. People look at it. As if 38DDD were not enough for folks to look at — now I have a scar in there to draw their attention. I am not going to hide my cleavage every day but I am actually thinking about seeing a plastic surgeon next year to fix the scar.

YOGA
I haven’t practiced yoga since I broke my foot in March. The small broken bone on the outside of my right ankle affected my whole leg and hip. Even with physical therapy it took forever to heal. It does still occasionally bother me and that largely depends on the type of shoes I wear. As a result, my leg hasn’t been strong enough to support a few yoga positions. This is a drag. I love yoga. Yoga is my escape; my refuge. I’ve noticed a huge difference in my body’s flexibility in the last few months. I am much tighter than I was. As someone who has been double jointed and very flexible my entire life, the restriction in my body is extremely frustrating.

I set an intention for 2019. Since my leg is starting to feel stronger, I am going to enroll in beginner’s yoga course in January at a local studio. While I am not a beginner, I’ve been practicing yoga for many years, a beginners course will start slow and gradually advance me back to where I was. This will lessen any chance of injury and give my body a chance to open gradually.

Sleep
Let me just say, I need seven to eight hours solid sleep most nights or I become exhausted. One of the challenges of menopause is that it is causing me to have broken sleep almost every night or no sleep some nights. It’s really frustrating and some days I am downright exhausted. I finally talked to my doctor who prescribed a low dose non habit forming sleep aid (Trazadone) to use as needed. I tried it Friday night. It didn’t help me fall asleep faster but it did help me stay asleep longer without waking up every two hours. I know I slept because I had vivid sex dreams last night…very vivid 🔥😉😂Since I have a recovering drug addict in my family, I am very aware about dependence on medication so I won’t be taking it every night. But it is nice to have something that I can use when I really need a good night’s sleep and the sex dreams are a nice bonus 😂

Setting intentionsACTION: Set an Intention for 2019
Do you have an Intention for 2019? Take a few moments and think about what how you envision 2019. What actions can you take in 2019 to support your holistic wellness? What do you want in your life in 2019? Who do you want in your life in 2019? What can you do to make that happen? Set an Intention…

Here’s my Intention for yoga as an example:

I will practice gentle yoga and take a beginner’s series yoga class…in order to…increase space and flexibility in my body without causing injury… starting in January 2019.

Use this formula to write your own intentions for the day, week, month or year…

✔️Intentions Start with an action sentence (I am, I will, etc).

✔️Include the statement “in order to”

✔️End it with a timeframe for accountability.

Mindful Challenge
Here’s a quick mindful exercise from Mindful Magazine https://www.mindful.org that can be done standing or seated.

Mindful Challenge

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Self Care Sunday – Wish I knew

Purification fire art

I’ve been reflecting upon lessons about self care I’ve learned along in recent years. If only I knew what I know now when I was younger perhaps I would have saved myself anxiety, worry, illness and stress.

One of the hardest lessons I’ve had to learn about self care is this that my body needs more rest than I’ve been willing to give it in the past. I also had to accept that my body is not able to do what it used to do or what other people’s bodies are capable of doing. I have to stop comparing my abilities limits with the past and with other people.

I don’t have a strong constitution. I never have. My mind has always been willing and able. My spirit has always been willing and able. But, my body… well, I’ve often pushed my body beyond its limits to keep pace with the inclinations of my mind and spirit. This hasn’t always worked out so well for me. I typically pushed myself and went 100mph only to crash without seeing the wall I was about to crash into. I’ve gotten better at pulling myself back, stopping myself from pushing and just surrendering to what my body needs instead of what my mind it trying to pressure it into doing but it frustrates me. It frustrates me to have a willing mind and spirit and weak body. It’s a lesson is patience and self acceptance. It is also perhaps a challenge for me to offer my body as much unconditional love as I offer others.

I worked a lot this week. It was a good week. I accomplished A LOT but it was challenging too. I came home exhausted each night and by 4:00pm on Friday afternoon, I was toast. I was home in my pajamas with a gluten free pizza by 5:00pm. By 7:30pm I couldn’t keep my eyes open and I was in bed at 8:00pm. Part of the problem this week was that Fall Season is typically when I am more susceptible to migraines. Sun glare, weather changes, windy and rainy days seem to trigger more headaches for me in the Fall. I had a small headache most of the week that I was able to manage and move through but it was making me tired. It pushed through it all week so I didn’t miss work but I think it prompted an episode of Tachycardia while I was at work on Thursday. At first I wasn’t sure what was happening then I checked my heart rate from my Apple Watch. It was definitely a Tachycardia rhythm. My congenital arrhythmia has been stable for long time so I was a bit freaked out. It’s been so long since I had an episode that I don’t even carry rescue medicine with me anymore. I closed my eyes and focused on my breath for a few minutes. I then went and got Coconut Water front the vending machine. Coconut Water is high in Potassium; Potassium is my natural rescue medicine because it lowers the heart rate. It hasn’t happened again.

As weird as it sounds, I felt like I was having a psychic headache. I’ve gotten those kind of headaches in the past when people I love have been stressed or in trouble. The night my niece was arrested I had a monster psychic headache and knew before my sister called something bad had happened. So far I haven’t gotten any phone calls or received any bad news, that doesn’t mean something hasn’t happened. It just means someone hasn’t told me. Hopefully, the Tachycardia was just hormonal and the headache was just sinuses.

My mind wanted to go out and enjoy life on a Sunny Saturday afternoon. I instead slowed down. I spent the day by letting my body come to a full and complete stop – REST! My body and mind were tired and just needed to be warm and comfy under a blanket with books and movies for the day. Everything I WANTED to go do could wait. Learning to stop myself is a huge act of surrender for me. It’s also an act of self acceptance. To finally love myself enough and accept myself enough to respect my body’s limits and no longer push it is a big deal for me. The loving kindness I am showing my body by acquiescing to this basic need for rest is one of the most important self care lessons I’ve learned in recent years. In this situation, self care is passive rather than active. I am NOT “doing” instead of “doing”.

Career-wise this week has been interesting and felt almost like a roller coaster that I didn’t know I was going to be on :-). There are only eight weeks left in my temporary assignment and it’s that time when everyone is asking what I am doing next. I was dodging people left and right to avoid conversations this week. Lol 😂 I just didn’t feel ready to have that conversation. I’m still exploring options but I was cornered twice this week by managers 😂 I decided it was best to be honest about my feelings. Here’s the truth – Ideally, I would like to stay in my current role if they are able to make that happen in some way. Otherwise, I am looking for another opportunity to learn, grow and use all of my talents and skills in, hopefully, a more strategic role which hopefully includes doing outreach work. However, I am also extremely interested in Cyber related topics and we are doing research in that area. That would be an area of interest for me too so they asked if I was open to another temporary assignment. I am open to it but I am not sure that is even possible since I’ve already been gone a year.

All of these conversations brought me to basic questions I had to ask myself. “What do I want? What is the best choice for me to make for my holistic wellness in this situation?” Self care in this area means this choice needs to be about my holistic wellness. It’s not just about money or title. It’s about what do I enjoy doing. It’s about what area could I continue to grow or learn something new. It’s about where could I do the most good. I don’t want to be stuck in a cubicle doing desk work. I’ve had taste of something more and I like it😊The interesting thing is I am not stressed about this because my faith is rock solid that everything will work out for my highest good. I am also happy that folks are talking to me about options and I’ve been able to be honest and express myself.

I got a big surprise at work this week and it was good news. A prize competition I proposed earlier this year has been stuck in legal for months. Well, I found out one of my Directors has been pushing them on it without me knowing. On Thursday, they gave me the go ahead as long as I get approval from the highest level of leadership in the company. Lol 🙂 My response was, “oh, is that all?” Then my Program’s Sponsor offered to have that conversation for me because she likes the innovation and creativity I’ve shown. I wrote her a briefing with talking points. She will use those to pitch to her boss. Since we cleared the legal hurdle, approval would delegate authority to us to run multiple competitions – if we are successful 🙂 I honestly thought this project was dead and I just moved on. It means a lot that I received so much support even when I thought it was dead.

I need to rant on one topic….lol 🙂 I live on the beach on the 7th floor of an old building that was converted from a hotel. It has a brick exterior wall. The bricks are splitting which is causing a water leak in my oceanfront window when it rains and is causing major water damage to dry wall and carpet. I am starting to worry about mold and air quality. I now have pots lining my front window while the owner and property management figure out what to do about it. It’s coming down to who is responsible to pay. The exterior wall is the condo association responsibility while interior is the landlord’s responsibility. I found out the condo association was supposed to fix the exterior wall a few years ago but they never did it. This would mean they would also be responsible for replacing the dry wall, carpet. Each week this continues I get more concerned about mold, air quality and if the dry wall is going to fall. My landlord asked me to hang in there with her. If she doesn’t hear from them this week, she’s getting an attorney. She promised to replaced the carpeting, not raise my rent and put me up in a hotel while the repairs are done if I promise to stay. The reality is we no longer have a lease. It’s month to month. If I found another place and wanted to move, I could. I am hoping this gets resolved in the coming week because I really do not feel like moving.

This situation with the condo has me wondering if it’s time to move or maybe even time to buy a place. Here’s the thing — I like high-rise living. It’s perfect for my situation. I like the safety of it. No one can come to my front door without going past security. I’ve had a stalker in the past so I like having security standing between and someone getting to my front door. I also like the social aspect. I know a lot of people here now so I’m not isolated. If I do move, I would want to move to another high-rise. I started to open my awareness and start looking but I’m not 100% I will pursue it if everything works out with the repairs. I really don’t know what is the best thing for me to do in this situation. I don’t know what is best for my holistic wellness as far as the apartment goes. For now, I am praying angels, guides and ascended masters to intuitively direct me to the right choice with the apartment as well as with the job.

As you can see self care for me is a work in progress. I am continually learning how to stop, slow myself down and recognize when I need to pull back. I am also trusting I will intuitively know what to do next in my career and what to do about the apartment and moving. In the meantime, I am keeping my eyes open to all opportunities. I am ready, willing and open to letting to. I am willing to take advantage of the right opportunities when they show up. Once you are out of the comfort zone, keep moving 🙂

Comfort zone

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