Life Coach Jargon

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In the last year, I’ve been exposed to many coaching techniques. A lot of Life Coaches these days talk about positivity, staying in alignment, flowing with the Universal energies and offering no resistance. But what does this lofty jargon mean? What are the real world applications? What does it mean to flow?

Let me first say, you do not need to be positive all of the time. Forcing yourself to be positive is not authentic. It’s more important for you to acknowledge your true feelings. Be miserable and feel sorry for yourself for a day, if you need to. Then, work to release it, accept it and move on. Authenticity is more important than positivity. Putting a happy face on a problem won’t make it go away. Living in truth will at least help you adapt to a new reality and make you emotionally stronger.

What does it mean to stay in alignment? All this really means is to become so in tune with yourself that you can intuitively feel when you are doing something that is NOT beneficial to your long term growth and well-being. When you know are you doing something that makes you unhappy, that breaks you down and wears you out, you are no longer aligned with your highest good. Alignment means you are lined up with the path for your highest good. A word of caution – the path to your highest good can go through the valley of hell. You can be frustrated and struggling even while in alignment. It really depends on what life lessons you are supposed to learn. Remember to check in with yourself and be sure you are suffering for the right reasons. If you are suffering because you are growing, changing and living outside of your comfort zone, you are still in alignment with your highest good. It’s really that simple.

Flowing with the Universe and offering no resistance is tricky. It means accepting you have no control over some things. It requires us to let go when something is no longer working out for our highest good. It requires surrendering instead of struggling and pushing. It’s hard because life sucks sometimes. There are times when we all want to kick and scream like a toddler having a tantrum. No one enjoys change. No one wants to accept rejection. No one wants to move on. No one wants to let go when the heart wants to hold on. If you can work towards using these sucky times of life as opportunities to grow, learn something about yourself, adapt and become stronger, you will be flowing with Universe instead of digging your heels in the sand resisting.

So, you wonder if I actually practice all of this New Age mumbo jumbo. I try. That’s about all I can say about it. Sometimes days I flow like I am riding a magic carpet; other days I fall flat in the sand because my heels are stuck in resistance. But I try😊

On the work front, I’ve been actively going on the offensive to reshape the expectations of leadership so they understand what is achievable within my scope. Second, I’ve been speaking truth to power; it isn’t easy. I have to speak more truth to power tomorrow morning at 8:30am…😂 Although this job has been a great growth experience, I am not yet sure about staying long term. One deciding factor will be if they decide to support a Grand Research Challenge. I would love to work on a project like that! Otherwise, I am keeping ALL of my options open.

Unfortunatley, I am still sick. I took Mucinex, Flonase and Decongestants for a week. My sinuses and ears are still jacked up. Since it’s been over seven days, my Doctor gave me an antibotic. Hopefully, it kicks in soon. I have to call on Friday if my ears don’t open up. I don’t feel horrible. Just a little tired and my hearing is muffled 🤧😷

Finally, I am making a committment to myself to get back to writing poetry. I hope to post something for the Blue Love collection on Friday. A little blue eyed spark of lust would help with getting the poetic mojo going 😉💥🔥😋😘 I could use a little crystal blue sparkle ☺️

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Self Care Sunday – Saying YES and Living In The Flow

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Do you want to know how to unlock the Universal flow positive energy in your life? Say “Yes!” to opportunities that come your way. Saying “Yes” to opportunities is a powerful way to signal the Universe that you are ready for more!

Here’s how it happened to me this week. On Tuesday morning I was asked a question by my boss, “ Linda, do you want to take the action to create an Rotating Exhibit Plan for the Center’s Museum Concept?” The truth is I am pretty busy with standing up my program and really didn’t want to take the action. However, I understand the flow of universally energies enough to know when you say “No” to opportunities, you are signaling the Universe that you aren’t ready or interested. You are more or less telling the Univese “don’t come around here no more; I am not interested!”😂 In other words you are changing the flow of Universal Positive energy and shifting yourself out of alignment. I also understand there is power and opportunity in saying “Yes”. So I said, “Yes”. The next day I got a call from someone asking me to be their Life Coach. While I was planning on taking the summer off from coaching, I knew I couldn’t say “No”. If I said no, I would be telling the Universe “no thank you. I’m not ready”. So I said, “Yes”. The next day I got an email with an offer to attend a free PMP Bootcamp in DC; my boss only has to fund my travel. I said “Yes” knowing he already offered to pay for my PMP. So now I get to spend a whole week in DC in August and take my PMP by the end of the fiscal year. That chain of events may not have happened if i said “No” to the first opportunity.

Do you see what I mean about being in the flow of Universal energies? When you say “yes” to people and opportunities, you open the door to more opportunities. When you say “no”, you are telling the Universe you are not ready or worthy. It will skip you the next time. When you say “no” or hesitate, you shift yourself out of alignment and ultimately make things harder for yourself.

Are you living in alignment? Does your life flow easily? Is your career energizing or depleting? Life and work are not meant to be hard or a struggle. Will life be challenging? YES! Can life be rewarding? Hopefully! Should life or work be depleting or exhausting? Only if you are swimming upstream and living or working out of alignment with the truth of who you are. It is really that simple.

I try to explain this basic Law of Attraction principle to folks who become my clients because I believe it is the key to creating abundance in all areas of life. One must understand how to live in the flow of positive energies and understand you must say “Yes” to people and opportunities that at first glance may not be of interest to you. You never know where one “YES” may lead you. Every time you say “no” you are telling the Universe you are not interested in opportunities.

How did I get to this place and come to understand this stuff? My life got jacked up and I started educating myself. Then my eyes were open! Once the soul awakens and your eyes are opened to the truth in your life, you can no longer live a lie.

Another example of living in flow happened this week. Last week I decided I wanted to learn more about the Native American Culture and my ancestors. I remembered going to Pow-Wow with my family when I was a little girl so I googled local pow-wows. As luck or synchronicity would have it, there was one this weekend in Woodstown, NJ which is about 50 miles from my home. I drove up Saturday. The photos below are from the event. I find the Native American culture, customs and rituals to be spiritually rewarding for me. The only lesson learned was to arrive about a half an hour before the Grand Entrance instead of two hours earlier. By the time the dancing started, I was already hot and tired and didn’t last long. However, it worked out best I left earlier than I planned because I hit a big storm on the way home and got out of the fairgrounds before it hit Woodstown 🙂 Again, I was in the flow. I also made a decision today about my trip in 2019. I am definitely going to a Indian Reservation first than Europe. Most likely Blackfeet Nation in Glacier National Park, Montana because my sister once went there.

Saturday was the 44th Anniversary of my father’s death. Hard to imagine it’s been that long since I seen him. I was only seven years old. Years later I signed up to volunteer for organization that does grief counseling for children. I actually got up to leave mid-way through the training because I was so overwhelmed. One of the counselors followed me out. She asked me to tell her what I was feeling. It was then I learned for the first time that children who experience traumas before the age of 10 often have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder for the rest of their lives. The trauma becomes part of their DNA. They struggle the rest of their lives with depression, grief and loss. It never completely leaves them. For the first time, I truly understood why I carry that pain of loss in my heart and why I can’t just “get over it” as some would say.  Some losses are so devastating they never leave you. We agreed I couldn’t be a volunteer for organization but that was the beginning of me finally understanding why I sometimes still feel like that seven year old little girl. The seven year old little girl looking out the door waiting for my Daddy to come home only to see my crying mother walk in with his shoes and pants. I do see Mediums who help me connect with my father. I know he is with me and is guiding me. Everything good that has happened in my life, has been because he led me to it. Being honest with myself and others about my past and how it shaped me is part of self care. It is helping me to live authentically and love unconditionally.

Another way I took care of myself this week is I’ve been focusing on comfort and making myself comfortable. My joints and muscles are always sore. My super firm mattress wasn’t helping me. I bought a memory foam mattress topper and put a thick pad over top of that. I can melt in my bed now. It’s super comfy and I don’t feel the pressure points in my hips on the firm mattress anymore. I am also looking forward to my Espresso Brown Leather Recliner arriving soon. I see a lot of naps happening in that chair 🙂

So, how are you taking care of yourself today? Are you in the flow? Have you said “Yes” to anything? Are you interested in going to Indian Reservation? Are you living authentically and being honest about who you are?

Coming up mid-week on Writing Holistically: Blue Love Poetry

ICYMI: Blue Love Haiku #10

https://writingholistically.com/2018/06/06/blue-love-haiku-10/

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