Self Care Sunday ~ Safety First

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Governor Murphy of New Jersey just passed an Executive Order making it law to wear face masks indoor and outdoors to help prevent the transmission rate of Corona Virus. The only exceptions are if you are socially distanced (over 6 feet away from other people), eating or drinking at an outdoor establishment and socially distanced, under 2 years old or have a medical condition which makes wearing a mask difficult.

Believe me, I am just as frustrate about wearing a mask all the time as anyone else – especially because it’s hot and humid now. I went an outdoor Farmers Market on Saturday morning. It was hot and humid;  the mask was driving me crazy. I couldn’t wait to get into the car and take it off. I am an outdoors person and wearing a mask is frustrating but I wear it. I always have a mask with me when I distance walk. I pull it down when I am socially distanced and pull it back on over my nose when someone is coming close to me out of respect for their well being. I’ve adapted but I will be honest…

I’ve chosen to stay home more and to do things solo instead instead with a group now. Talking one to one or eating with someone one to one is ok for me.  I am just not interested in going out to eat or hanging out with groups of people anymore.  So much for summer parties – I am not going – nope!   I choose activities that I don’t have to wear the mask all the time or worry about where everyone has been in the last few weeks.

I found these graphics and I found them helpful.I’ve been using them as a guide. I’d like to say that just because restaurants and bars are offering outdoor options, doesn’t mean we should be going – especially in South Jersey resort towns where so many out of state visitors are vacationing. If you think they are self quarantining or taking all of the precautions, I can tell you they are not. They come from out of state, rent for a week and think they don’t need to wear a mask because the are on “vacation”. I will enjoy the local area in September after they have all gone home – that’s unless we are under another mandatory lockdown. Frankly, if there would have been a National lockdown in March/April for three weeks, it would not have gotten this bad… There are two viruses in the US, Corona Virus and Trumpism and the GOP let both of them spread unchecked.

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I am especially not interested in wearing a mask today because Tropical Storm Fay brought me a migraine on Friday morning.  I’ve been medicated for two days. I’ve managed to push through it. I worked Friday. Walked 12,000 both Friday and Saturday. I worked out and went food shopping on Saturday morning. Now on Saturday afternoon – I am ready to give in to the headache and exhaustion. I took the migraine meds and I will be staying home in the a/c staring mindlessly at the TV wearing a summer nighty to stay super cool 🙂 I don’t mind having a down day. I am off from work on Monday and will hopefully be able to enjoy the day while not being in pain 🙂

Migraine suffers understand  that sometimes you just can’t stop it from happening. Migraine suffers understand what I  mean that you learn to push through them but some days you just have to give in and rest.
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May you be healthy
May you be happy
May you be loved

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Self Care Sunday ~ In It Together

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Happy Easter 🐰 Easter is not especially important to me. As a non-practicing Catholic, it’s just another Sunday. My relationship with God doesn’t require me to go to church. My relationship with God only requires me to talk to him, to trust in him and to have faith during difficult times. Easter is, however, important to my Mother. She enjoys having the family together. Since she is 80 years old, she now wonders if every holiday is her last so not being able to be with the entire family for Easter this year is challenging for her. I can’t do anything to change that this year; all I can do is talk to her and support her through this difficult time. I encourage everyone to stay connected to your loved ones during this hard time.

I’ve been teleworking for a month now. I am grateful to still be working. I am thankful for my beautiful ocean view but I really can’t wait to get back to normalcy. I don’t like teleworking full time. Yes, my commute is only 60 seconds and I wear my yoga clothes every day. Well, everyday except days have Zoom Video Meetings. I get dressed up & put on makeup on those days. Yes, I’ve been enjoying my ocean view all day while working but but work-wise – I’ve never been busier or under more pressure at any time of my career. This week has been especially bad.

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I am a Project Lead on a high profile project. I’ve been trying to move important efforts forward but slow responses is impeding my efforts at crucial times. I actually have to work through 6 layers of management to get things done and every one of them tries to “manage” something they don’t understand completely. It’s a huge problem. I can’t really say anything without potentially making a career limiting decision. I am just doing what I can do and trying my best to stop giving myself anxiety over it.

I had a zoom meeting with company wide Execs (internal stakeholders) earlier this week and let me tell you… They were grilling me🔥No joke, grilling me with my managers on the Video call with us🤣…”What is the problem? We can help you? Why is it taking so long?” 🤣 So, I chose to carefully share that the documents they were asking about are ready – have been ready…And, then I carefully explained my organization’s management review/approval cycle. And, that’s when they knew… It wasn’t easy but I managed to give them enough information so they could see I was moving things forward but it’s all stuck outside of my control.   Well, that led to an urgent action to turn something around by close of business Friday.  No one in management could do it so,  yep, I  worked all Wednesday night… I was absolutely disgusted on Thursday morning during our telecom with them that I almost cried. My direct supervisor actually called me and apologized. He told me he informed folks above him he was not giving me any more actions until further notice – in other words… find someone else☺️For clarity, my direct supervisor and I area in complete alignment – it’s above him where things get squirrelly.  The company wide Execs (internal stakeholders) now want to meet with me directly bi-weekly.

This job has been nothing but drama this week… Honestly, it’s been nothing but pressure and drama since I started it in August. Let me say this with absolute sincerity, if the right opportunity came along and I could leave my current position to do something lower profile – I would be totally up for it.   I don’t hate this job – but it’s at the point of diminishing returns. I am not going to rush into anything but I am now going to open myself up to accepting a new opportunity.  I shouldn’t be crying during telecoms from stress and pressure created by my own leadership. At 3:30pm on Thursday, I put an Out Of Office Reply on my email until 6:00am on Monday. It’s funny because New Jersey is still under a Stay At Home Order. It’s not like I am going anywhere. I just wanted to be sure folks knew I am off of the clock – don’t call me.

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Early Friday I masked up and went to a small local grocery store. I did laundry, worked on my balcony garden, cleaned, listened to music and actually had a rather nice and relaxing day. Below are some updated photos of the garden and micro greens I am growing. The greens are just about ready to eat 🤣

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The Corona Virus experience has really put things into perspective for me. Life is fragile.  If this is it, can I say I am fulfilled and happy in my life?  I can’t answer yes to either of those with complete honesty.  As far as my job goes, I am “hanging in there”.  That’s not happiness or fulfillment. God didn’t intend me to live a life the I am “hanging in there”. Working a job that that require me to take Xanax every night at bedtime is not the way God intended my life to be.  Thankfully, I had the courage to leave all unhealthy relationship behind a few years ago.  My relationships and connections are healthy, happy and balanced!  Do I wish I saw certain people more than I do? Yes!  But, overall, things are in balance.

Has the Corona experience changed your perspective?

These Chocolate Easter Bunnies are a reminder to wear a face mask when out in public; protect yourself and others 😷 No one is immune to Corona Virus – no one!

Happy Easter

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May you be healthy
May you be happy
May you be loved

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Self Care Sunday ~ The New Reality

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How y’all doin? Are you extroverts hanging in there? In the words of my former boss and great mystic, “You’ll be fine”🤣✌️

All joking aside…I think the way we survive this much time in isolation, quarantine and social distancing is to find something productive and positive to focus on when we feel anxiety. I encourage you to lean into the new reality and find this stillness as a catalyst of change.  Unfortunately, folks who are used to keeping themselves in constant motion to avoid their reality or so they don’t have to think about stuff probably are having a hard time with this hard STOP and down time. My advice is…Lean into the uncomfortableness you are feeling and learn that you don’t have to be “happy” all the time. Sometimes it’s ok to just “be”. Sometimes it’s ok to be sad.  I encourage you to let this experience bring you out the other side with a new awareness of yourself and the world around you. My 80 year old Mom said to me today, “I truly believe something this bad had to happen for people to wake the fuck up and change  the world.  Half the shit those folks worry about all day (money, status) it’s all bullshit” RIGHT ON MOM ✌️✊ What really matters are our connections to other people 💙💫Empathy and compassion are the new superpowers 💙 Stay connected to those who matter to you. Perhaps say a prayer for their safety while you are apart 💙✌️💫

If you need to move and shake off some of the stagnate energy, join me in “Club Quarantine” for pop up DJ dance sessions on Instagram Live at DNICE Instagram and Quest Love (of The Roots) Instagram. Each do pop up DJ sessions on line. DNICE Club Quarantine on Friday night had 19K people from 8:00pm EDT to 9:30pm EDT during his tribute to Bill Withers and tonight he was live at 7:00pm EDT with 62.3K people in the room. DNICE & QuestLove  post when they are going live on their Instagram pages and then you just click their profile photo to enter the live feed. It’s AWESOME. I danced in my living all through both sessions! Such a great way to burn off the heavy energy around us and connect with the rest of world in Club Quarantine 💙

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I’ve had some sinus/ear issues this week. I believe it’s from allergies. It’s been super windy every single day.  My head does NOT like windy weather. It’s a migraine trigger for me.. I don’t have any other symptoms so I don’t think I have Corona Virus. The heat in my condo was fixed, it’s finally not 90 degree in my living room anymore. I think the heat has been part of the problem too. It’s been drying me out. I am, however, keeping a distance and wearing a face mask when I grocery shop. I bought these masks on Etsy. Learning how to wear a mask without steaming up my glasses has been a challenge 🤣
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Updates from last week, I haven’t decided what I am going to do with my balcony yet. The only decision I’ve made so far was to buy two new “relaxer” chairs that I can use on my balcony or maybe take to the beach in the meantime while I think about making a larger investment. I would really love a small outdoor loveseat with an ottoman but I have to think about storage during winter and I can’t buy it right now anyway because I can’t get it delivered.  Anyway, I lucked out while looking online for chairs. I found these super comfy chairs were on sale at Ace Hardware. I was able to order and pay online and then pick them up curbside at a local store. I paid only $35.00 for each because they were on sale and I have Ace Hardware Rewards Account so they were an extra $15.00 off for each. That’s a STEAL👍I can definitely hangout and listen to the ocean in these chairs. They are super comfy and recline all the way back✌️ I can also fold them up and put them under my bed during the winter. When you live in a condo, you always have to think about storage when you buy something 😉

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Honestly, I believe some form of social distancing is going to be with us for many months until there is a vaccine for Corona Virus. Round two in fall and winter could be worse.  I want to make my space super comfy for myself and so I can have close friends over to hang out on my balcony this summer inside of going out in crowded places.  Friends can bring their wine/beer while I drink coffee or an Orange Pellegrino 🍊 I also put a bench together for my plants or it could be extra seating. My herb plants are under the new bench in the photo below for protection from today’s wind.  I don’t want them inside. The Oregano is too fragrant.

If someone would have told me my Isolation hobby would become a potted garden for veggies and fruit along with growing micro greens and having a blueberry bush hanging out on my dining room table, I would have thought they were insane 🤣But, here we are… You can see my Drawf Blueberry bush is sprouting some leaves and my Kale Microgreens are having mixed results. The one on the far right is doing great. I can cut some next week to eat 😀🌱 I am waiting for a day that is not windy to go out on the balcony with the rest of my gardening supplies to plant Spinach, Kale and Lettuce seeds in 12″ pots.  It’s worth a shot ✌️🌱.  While I could wear the mask outside in the wind, it’s still a migraine trigger so I am going to wait.

Take care of yourself and don’t forget to meet me in Club Quarantine by clicking DNICE his profile photo on Instagram to shake some stress off 💃🏻
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May you be happy
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Self Care Sunday – Isolationship 💙

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There is finally a word for what I’ve been doing for the last few years… I was in an isolationship a long time before it was mandatory 💙✌️🤣

As a natural introvert, social distancing  is what I do on weekends when I need downtime. It’s not a hardship for me. Years ago I used to drink wine and beer as a social lubricator to socialize and be a bit extroverted. Drinking is no longer an option for me and I’ve settled into my introverted lifestyle.

My focus the last few years has been on healing myself on a deep emotional level, making peace with painful experiences from my past and focusing my energy on maintaining contact with people with whom I have genuine connections.  When people have genuine connections, physical distance is irrelevant.  In this time of social distancing, I am still maintaining some form of contact whether it be phone,  text or  spiritual contact with those I love. I also pray for their safety each day.

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Since focusing on myself the last few years, I’ve experienced profound growth and healing. I’ve also learned coping skills. I have an anxiety disorder and I am also in some weird auto-immune flare up right now. I have muscle and joint pain which I was hoping would resolve with getting my Iron levels up but it hasn’t yet helped. Teleworking is blessing. I am still working full time but it also keeps me in my condo all day long. Getting up, getting dressed, putting on makeup and going to work not only takes my mind off some of the weird shit going on in my body, it also gives me a social outlet in a safe space. This requires me to be diligent in managing my thoughts and emotions. I’ve been strategizing ways for me adapt and refocus myself on other things while being stuck at home alone. As someone who has anxiety on a regular basis, this has been critical in helping me get through this pandemic while living alone and being about 60 miles from my family without using Xanax every day.

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My main home project during this time is my balcony. I am lucky to live in a beachfront condo with a balcony. It’s March so I am not out there much this time of year. You can see the chairs stacked in the corner which I find very uncomfortable. I am getting rid of them and may see if the local homeless shelter wants them for their gazebo area.
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I never really thought about redoing my balcony area because I usually spend most of time at our community pool, on the beach or walking around town. I am not really sure what this summer will bring so I’ve decided to make this space cozy so I can hang out there, maybe work out there on nice days and enjoy the sound of the ocean and moonlight on the water at night💙 I really like the below patio set and I measured it. It looks comfortable and looks like it will fit on the balcony… I am still looking and haven’t committed to this but I like dark wicker but maybe nested ottomans would be better in the small space and I would prefer red cushions.  My biggest issues that one will deliver and put it together during COVID🤣 I am pretty handy and have tools 💁🏻‍♀️I just put together a task chair and a fan but do I really want to put together a whole patio set by myself?  UGH!  There is no rush to order just yet. I’ll wait a few weeks to see if what happens. I would rather pay someone to do it or have someone help me, than do it myself ✌️
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I bought some plants to grow in pots on the balcony. You can see the herb starter plants below (1st photo below). I am going to repot them. I am also growing Kale micro greens from a kit that I bought on Amazon (2nd photo below). A local garden store, Lang’s,Garden, is actually open during the pandemic. I guess gardening supplies are essential🤣💚I order a Drawf Blueberry bush that can grow in a pot and is hardy during cold weather (3rd photo below). I love blueberries so I am going see if I can grow it on my balcony. I am also planting Kale and Spinach in pots too 💚🌱 You can see all of my supplies (4th photo below). In coming weeks, I will be planting and building a potted garden on my balcony. This also gives me something focus on and nurture during this time of uncertainty. herb starter plants
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How are you coping during this time of uncertainty? I hope you are well and finding something to believe in and love during this challenging time. I think we will all look back on 2020 and have a bit of post traumatic stress disorder 🤣✌️
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May you be healthy
May you be happy
May you be loved

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Self Care Sunday ~ What’s Your Silver Lining

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This past week has been a little like falling down the Rabbit Hole? Like WTF?, Right? This Corona Virus stuff is just surreal…

The Media is not over-hyping this and I know it for one reason. My niece works for Jefferson Health Systems which is a large network of hospitals in the Philly area. On Wednesday they decided to move all non medical employees to telework. She didn’t have a computer at home and she couldn’t take the one at work with her. She only had a cell phone and tablet at home. I didn’t want her to get laid off so I bought her a laptop and few accessories on Thursday online at Best Buy and she picked them up in Philly that afternoon.  She helps my Mom and she is very responsible kid.  I was happy to help her.  She took the laptop into work on Friday to have the software installed and already started teleworking this morning (Saturday).  She called me this afternoon when she got done work. She told me she got a work email that said, “THE ENTIRE HOSPITAL SYSTEM THROUGHOUT THE CITY WAS AT CAPACITY!” That’s scary.

As for myself, last week was my first full week of telework. It looks like I could be teleworking for a while. I am glad I am teleworking. It will at least keep me busy while I stay at home. It’s funny though. I normally get dressed up for work and put my face on every day. I like to look polished when I am at work. Since I’ve been teleworking, it’s been more like this tho… 🤣 Text before Zoom, Skype or FaceTiming because I won’t pick up without cleaning myself up a bit 🤣
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I ordered myself a desk two weeks ago. It arrived last week but it arrived in two boxes and in two different colors of wood 🤣 I sent it back and got a refund. A guy who works in my building was going to help me put it together but he has a large family and is around a lot of people. He shouldn’t be in my condo until this thing over – just in case.  I have tools and I am handy but I don’t know if I am up to putting a whole desk together myself 🤣So, I am going to wait to order another desk.  In the meantime, my dining room table has become my office. I ordered a few things on Amazon to make it more comfortable but all in all it’s a nice set up and you can’t beat my view.
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I am not even gonna lie… this thing has my anxiety running a bit high. Today, Saturday, is my birthday. It’s weird… I am social distancing while also celebrating another day of living…I may order a gluten free pizza and chocolate cake to celebrate but I am trying to very hard to not stress eat during this mess. I’m also pacing/walking every day inside and have closed my Stand, Move and Exercise Rings on my Apple Watch everyday.

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The silver lining in this for me is that it reconnected me to why I moved into this condo in the first place… The full ocean view makes me happy 💙 Every window in my condo has an Oceanview because I am on a corner of the high rise. That’s my silver lining and that brings me comfort every day. What’s your silver lining?

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May you be healthy
May you be happy
May you be loved

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Social Distancing and Rest – Friday Update

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As an introvert, social distancing comes pretty naturally to me. It’s what I do most weekends 🤣Corona Virus social distancing and self isolation is different. Not only is it about my health and it’s about protecting the most vulnerable people in our population: elderly parents, grandparents and the chronically ill. Here’s a factual news article from PBS for education purposes:https://www.pbs.org/articles/2020/02/heres-what-you-should-know-about-the-novel-coronavirus/
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Corona Virus is serious and I no longer have time for folks who make light of a pathogen that is killing the vulnerable. I have a 80 year old Mother that I worry about all day long. Believe me I am extremely grateful she has been refusing to go into a retirement home and is now safe in her private home. I still worry about her especially because healthy people are panic buying and leaving nothing on the shelves for the folks who may not be able to afford to buy 20 cases of toilet paper at a time. I bought stuff online from ShopRite for my Mom and I have it scheduled for delivery next week. My sister also takes her out shopping every Sunday so my Mom is covered.

Before you all go out and clear the shelves tonight, I ask you to think about other folks who don’t have money or family to buy stock piles for a minute. It’s one thing to stock up but it’s another to only think of yourself. It lacks self and social awareness. But go enjoy your garage full of toilet paper. I actually saw someone in CVS yesterday who had a full cart of tissues boxes stacked up and said, “I don’t want to run out”! You, my friend, can go fuck all the way off…

I am also done with these spiritual types on social media sharing stupid posts about “staying woke” and how Corona Virus is some kind of spiritual cleanser sent to raise our consciousness and we shouldn’t fear it. Well maybe, but it is definitely a pathogen dumbass!  It’s killing people. Now shut the fuck up and go sage yourself of that bullshit. I agree we should delete fear and love is all there is. However, I do not believe anyone should make light of or spiritualize a pathogen that is killing the most vulnerable people in our population. I may be spiritual but I am also pragmatic as fuck and have had with dumb shit. I’ve especially have had it with the Trump Administration.  They knew for two months this could happen and hid it to protect his re-election chances.  #WorstPresidentInHistory is also #DumbAsFuck ✌️

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As for myself, I’m home on a sick day and absolutely exhausted from anemia. I am resting and taking care of myself. I am writing this propped up in my bed on my Mac Book. I will probably watch some Hulu when I get done writing this and just give into my body’s need to rest today. I’ve prepared myself for self isolation and social distancing by subscribing to Hulu. I bought a new desk and task chair with my income tax return to make teleworking more comfortable since I know I will be working from home more in the coming weeks. My condo is L-shaped so I can pace and get my steps in everyday right in my own home. I filled my freezer, fridge and panty. If I go out at all, it will minimal. Honestly, I may try to get my hair colored tomorrow because I need to wash some grey out of my hair and make myself feel pretty.

While home, I am still practicing yoga and meditation. I am going to work on building my own home practice one that is 30 minutes and one that is 60 minutes while I am home this weekend. If you are new at yoga or want to try a slow gentle practice, the below practice is simple and accessible.  I found it on Instagram @yogarove. I did it yesterday. I liked it. It was the first time I tried Chair Yoga.
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Take care of yourself and take care of vulnerable people in your community…

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May you be healthy
May you be happy
May you be loved

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