Self Care Sunday – Decisions and Adjustments

My self care is my responsibility. With this in mind, I decided to do a formal check-in on my own holistic wellness this week. In other words, I did few exercises to look at my overall holistic health. I identifed two areas I need to refocus myself and make decisions and adjustments.

First, the work/career area of my life needed to be reset. After taking a step back, I realized the professional limbo and uncertainty I’ve been in my career has been bleeding negativity and inaction into other areas of my life. It all started when I got myself stuck in limbo about six weeks ago after I made a decision but was asked to give them a little bit of time to fix things or work things out. Well, six weeks later there still isn’t clarity and it is now a political hot potato going between managers. I took the opportunity to pull the escape hatch this week. I put an end to my involvement in it. I also noticed I am starting to lose my patience with the situation so I needed to find an exit ramp so I don’t lose my temper inappropriately. I also feel like I have received everything I need from this experience and that is why things have become sticky and frustrating for me. In other words…It’s time to open to other opportunities and let go. It’s scary but it’s time to take a deep breathe and jump 🙏🤞😂

Decisions

Staying in professional limbo was killing my motivation. I am a do-er. Being paralyze hasn’t been good for my emotional well-being the last month and the anxiety was starting to make me depressed and sick. When given the opportunity to step out, I took it. I am returning to old group on April 1st. I have a meeting set up at the end of the week to discuss my new responsibilities. It felt good to take my power back and let go of a situation that was stressing me out. While I am a bit sad, it became clear to me that it was costing me too much to try and working things out. It was time to choose again. I chose again. The bottom line is it was starting to be too hard…it should not be this hard.

Law of attraction

When I get stressed out, sad or anxious, my diet is always the first to suffer😌I hit the sugar and carbs hard ☺️ 😂I start to rely on my comfort foods. Since the beginning of the year, sugar, dairy and carbs have sneaked back into daily meals and have edged out the protein and veggies.

Cheat day meme

I was suspecting that not getting enough protein was actually the source of my muscle and joint pains recently so I used a food diary, www.myfitnesspal.com, to track my food for a month. I realized that I am getting about 20 to 30 grams below the amount of protein I need every day and most of my calories were coming from carbs and dairy. Instead of making any big sweeping dietary changes, I am just going to focus on eating more protein such as Chicken Breasts, Hard Boiled Eggs, Jerky, Protein Shakes, etc. (see below for examples of good sources of protein). Eating more protein will automatically crowd out the calories from the carbs and dairy. Spiritually, Protein is a grounding food and helps to root us energetically. I’ve been feeling like maybe my Root Chakra was a little unstable lately so grounding will help that too.

Protein quotes

ACTION
The action this week is to check-in with your diet. Our dietary needs change as we age. Are you getting the nutrients your body needs?

A quick way to figure out how much protein you should be eating is to multiply your weight by .36. If you would like to see how much of each nutrient you need each day, you can use a food tracker app like www.myfitnesspal.com. It automatically tells you how much you need based upon your height and weight. Another resource is the USDA DRI Calculator for Healthcare Professionals located at https://fnic.nal.usda.gov/fnic/dri-calculator/index.php. The below screen shot is also linked to the site. You just put your information in the form and it will tell you what you need.

DRI Calculator

Sources of protein

Meatless sources of protein

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Loving Kindness Prayer💙
May you be safe
May you be healthy
May you be happy
May you be loved
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Self Care Sunday ~ Grieving is self care

Rumi 20 years and her death is still my reason. My sister died on March 9, 1999 around 4:30am with me and other family members by her side after two weeks on life support and a battle with a terminal illness. During those two weeks, I sat with her. I talked to her. I read the newspaper to her. But mostly I sat in silent prayer. Honoring the beautiful soul that made such an impact on my life. When it became clear to me that it was end, I made her promises and those promise are still the reasons for my choices today.

I promised her I would live the life I was capable of living. I didn’t live up to that promise for a long time. I promised her I would live up to the beauty she saw within me. I was so blinded by self doubt and bad influences in my life that I couldn’t see myself as beautiful. I also made sure I thanked her. Anything good that is me is there because she loved me and believe in me. I am who I am because that beautiful soul loved me and took care of me since the day I was born.

How exactly do you commemorate the 20th anniversary of the most painful day of your life? I am honoring her by finally living the life I am capable of living. No more playing small. I am making choices that are authentically aligned with my truth now. That’s the only way I can live now. Emotionally, I recognize a need for support so I went out to dinner with friends last night (Friday). It was a beautiful night out. I am going to philly for a day with the family on Sunday. Today, Saturday, I am honoring my body’s need to slow down. I am also allowing myself to feel melancholy for what I lost. I am reflecting and being thankful for how I’ve grown and changed in recent years. I am remembering where I came from with gratitude. I am reaffirming my commitment to embodying love and light as I moved forward in this life. Mostly, I am just missing my sister and wondering how the hell it still hurts so bad after 20 years. The pain of grief never really goes away. You just become desensitized to it. It’s like the chronic knee pain you’ve learned to live with as you get older. I’m still walking but my heart and soul are wounded. So today is a day for me to just allow myself to honor that feeling without pressing myself to be happy or social.

On a positive note, I received wonderful news on Thursday about a career related situation. It looks like the strategic risk I took a few weeks ago is going to work out better that I even imagined. It’s partly official but not totally buttoned up yet. I can’t celebrate yet. The dust should settle in the next week or two. A new beginning will hopefully be on my horizon by the end of March. The best part of this is — even if it does go sideways, I can live with it. I did the right thing for myself and for my Program. If I end up back where I used to work after all of this — well, that must be where I am meant to be. This positive news is helping to keep my spirits balanced on a tough emotional day.

Grief

ACTION
This week’s action is to honor where you are. Feel what you need to feel. Cry if you need to cry. Hit bottom if it’s the only way for you to rise up to the top again. Show yourself some love and compassion today.

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Grief

Loving Kindness Prayer💙
May you be safe
May you be healthy
May you be happy
May you be loved

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What’s My WHY

What’s My Why

As I sit in professional limbo, I know one thing is for sure…I refuse to make an ego-based or an emotional decision✊

The ego and emotions have no place in making a strategic decision that will affect my career in the long term. My ego would jump at a promotion as a trophy while my emotions would pull me back to my old group/job because they feel like home. The key is for me to practice non-attachment to any outcome as I explore options and let things play out a little bit longer. I just need to steady my nerves to do this 😂 Whatever is for my highest good will rise up in my soul once I detach my emotions and ego from decision making process. Everything is always working out for my highest good even if it works out differently than I expected.

Every conversation I’ve had about this just muddied the water for me even more. I was getting myself confused because I never been one to follow external guidance. I now trust my own inner guidance system more for decisions that affect my life. I was in information and emotional overload which was making the choice more complicated.

Feeling conflicted and confused, I jumped into a hot shower last night. As the hot water pounded on my tight neck & shoulder muscles, I asked myself “What’s My WHY?”

My WHY is GROWTH. Growth is my word! I want potential for long term diversified growth opportunities in my future. This decision isn’t just about what I want to do today; it’s about how I want to position myself for long term growth in the future. Getting back to my WHY cleared up all the confusion and uncertainity I was having. The choice became clear! By the end of the night, I was relaxed and felt like the heaviness lifted.

What’s your why

For now, I need to see how the ball I put into motion plays out first; they advised I they should have a decision within two weeks (if not sooner). There are variables at play and I still feel I did the right thing. I just need to wait and see how it plays out. I also have a preferred contingency plan in place. If that goes sideways too, I still have a job to go back to 😂 It’s all good! I am ok with whatever happens because I know I lived and acted in alignment with my truth and I did what is right for the program I am representing. Wherever I end up, is where I am meant to be 😊

Every choice, every decision has a lesson in it. This one is teaching me patience. It’s also teaching me to TRUST to my intuition and use strategic thinking to evaluate choices instead of my ego. I can’t be reactive and emotional with this decision.

After all of that, I slept great last night and had a visitation dream from my deceased sister. She always comes in my dreams when I need reassurance and comfort😇✌️

If you need to make a big decision in your life, try using strategic logic to help you make the decision. Sit with yourself long enough to observe if your ego or emotions are driving your decisions. Can you practice non-attachment? Can you consider strategically aligning your choice with what you want in the future rather than reacting to the demands of your ego or attachments of your emotions? Seems to be working for me 😊✨

PS: I am feeling like a Blue Love Poem is brewing… Stop back Friday for a Blue Love note💙😊✨

Strategy

As Always – I will be including the Loving Kindness Prayer on every post going forward because I believe love can and will triump over evil. Light will prevail over darkness. I believe we need to put LOVE into the Universe. Love each other…

Remember to put a little love in the world by saying the Loving Kindness Prayer for someone special. I often like to say it for special people in my life as well for groups such as my family, friends, coworkers and all beings.

Loving Kindness Prayer💙
May you be safe
May you be healthy
May you be happy
May you be loved

I claim love as my vibration for 2019.
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Self Care Sunday – I Know The Way Out

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In 2011 I walked away from a life, a lifestyle, circle of friends that had a toxic hold over me. It was one of the most stressful times of my life because I was constantly attacked for being different from them and for not conforming to their ideologies. I was under constant pressure to fall in line to the “Group Think”. I was a round peg hanging around with square pegs trying to put myself into square holes with them. Living in that toxic energy everyday where the people surrounding me where trying to keep me small, almost destroyed me and actually made sick…very sick.

Eight years later and after surviving that hard transition I am in a wonderful place in my life. That hard transition led to wonderful inward journey and sparked many positive changes in my life, I am thriving. I am free from the manipulation. My self confidence is back. I am now standing in my authentic my personal power.

As I look back, I can see God wanted me to let go of that life for a long time. God had bigger plans for me than I had for myself…but I kept holding on. I kept holding on because I was afraid of the unknown and perhaps I was a bit gun shy because other changes I made didn’t work out the way I thought they would. The tighter I held on, the worst it got. Then God brought me to my knees in burnout, depression and illness.

Dear Universe

When God forced me to my knees, I finally learned to stayed there a while and rest. I didn’t rally. I didn’t force myself to get back up. I didn’t play nice. I withdrew and checked-in with myself. I prayed and evaluated my options. After taking some time to strategize things, I made a big move…I changed my life, I changed my lifestyle and removed myself from that social circle. It wasn’t an easy time of my life but going through that struggle made me stronger for everything else than has come after it.

It’s been my experience any time God wanted me to make a big change in my life, he made me as uncomfortable as possible. He broke me until I surrendered into the flow of the Universe. He broke me until I trusted him to show me the new path.

Trust me…Not walking away sooner almost killed me and certainly broke my spirit. But the question is… why was I fighting to stay somewhere I was no longer meant to be and possibly no longer truly wanted? Why was I allowing myself to be beaten down? The truth is…I was so stuck in the middle of the storm I couldn’t see I was in a storm. I couldn’t find a way out. It was like being in the middle of hurricane. You think you are ok as long as you don’t venture to far either way but each day I became smaller and part of the fire of my spirit slipped away. I couldn’t believe something better was out there for me because my self confidence was shattered and the judgment of others had me doubting my every move. I allowed the perceptions of the small minded people around me to become my truth. I allowed the “fight” and the victimization to become my story.

I can’t tell you how I finally broke the cycle. I am not sure what rose up in me to finally fight for myself. I don’t know the exact moment I chose myself but I do know…My life is dramatically different and better because I surrendered. I am better because I finally let go. I am better because I made a new life and chose a new path for myself.

This topic has been on my mind the last few days. The current situation I find myself in work is challenging but I am NOT out of my depth. I am well within the capacity of my inner strength and courage. I know I am brave enough to see how it plays out. I am a strategic thinker and risk taker. You bet your butt I have like three contingency plans in place 😂😂✌️ I also secured support to mitigate potential roadblocks. I am using the leverage I have appropriately and respectfully. I am being careful how I speak and which words I use. I am feeling hopeful that It’s going to work out in my favor. I actually saw some positive affects already but I still don’t know what job I will end up in yet 😂 I’ve surrendered…I took a stand for something I believed in and that was the right choice for me. If I lose, I lose. I can live with it. If I lose, God has something else in mind for me. Trust me, I’ve already handicapped the various outcomes 😂✌️This was a very strategic well thought out risk for me to take. Honestly, I would not have taken this kind of risk a few years ago. I would not have had the courage or confidence in myself to believe I could affect a change like this nor would I have the faith to know I will be ok no matter the outcome. When people spend all day telling you are that are you are small, you start to believe them.

Marianne Williamson quote

The other reason I was thinking about this is a friend is in a tough situation and I am concerned about her. Because of the nature of our official relationship I can’t offer to coach her. However, my unofficial observation is it may be time for her to surrender, let go and give herself a new beginning. While I did encourage her to explore other options, I stopped short of saying it was time to surrender because I believe that’s a realization she needs to make herself. I do honestly believe God may be making her uncomfortable because it’s time for her to let go and make a move. The only thing I can really do in this situation is be a supportive nurturing friend to her while she figures this out. As I do care about her very much, I reached out to a mutual friend who I know can help her. I just wanted to be sure he knew I was genuinely concerned. I believe she needs a coach not a savior or a fixer; I know he will do that for her. Hmm, maybe he and I should be Executive Coaching partners and start a business together??? LOL 😘😉 See, I’m always strategizing 🙂

Head’s Up —- Mercury Retrograde starts Tuesday, March 5th and last until March 26th. This can be a time of technical snafus and communication errors. I typically experience mail issues, phone and clock problems, electrical stuff in the house(smoke alarms), calendar mix-ups and computer problems at work. If you need to sign contracts or possibly accept job offers (I hope 🤞), be SUPER careful with words and communications. Thank God my serious work conversations are out of the way. The ball is rolling so hopefully things should be ok. I also remind folks to be careful with facial expressions like eye rolls especially in meetings. This is also a good time to revisit, reflect, rememberances, rekindling and reunions. Reach out to a friend and catch up 😊 Mercury Retrograde doesn’t have to be a time to hide. Just think twice before sending snarky emails and texts and choose your words carefully.

Mercury retrograde meme

ACTION
The Action this week is just to remember we are all in this life together. Look out for one of another. Help people when you can. Give support to those you care about and, if you are called, take a stand for something or someone you believe in.

Final thoughts…

When God drops you to your knees, stay there a while. Take the time to rest, heal and nurture yourself back to wellness. I can’t remember where I heard the below little story but I still love it…

God dropped me to my knees in a hole of depression and anxiety but guess what? I surrendered, let go and now…

I know the way out now… 😊✌️💙

As Always – I will be including the Loving Kindness Prayer on every post going forward because I believe love can and will triump over evil. Light will prevail over darkness. I believe we need to put LOVE into the Universe. Love each other…

Remember to put a little love in the world by saying the Loving Kindness Prayer for someone special. I often like to say it for special people in my life as well for groups such as my family, friends, coworkers and all beings.

Loving Kindness Prayer💙
May you be safe
May you be healthy
May you be happy
May you be loved

I claim love as my vibration for 2019.
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Everything is always working out for my highest good 💙🦋

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Self Care Sunday ~ Divine Timing

Pink Himalayan Salt Stone Massage

Self Care has been focused this week on taming stress, anxiety and tension. I celebrated Friday night happy hour at my Chiropractor’s office with an adjustment and a Pink Himalayan Salt Stone Massage. I needed to get tension and stress out of my neck and shoulder muscles. It felt like I was carrying the weight of the world on me and I needed to unload.

Friday quotes

I’ve been seeing the same Massage Therapist for two years. She is also an esthetician and shares an office with my Chiropractor. I grew up with family member owing a day spa so I’ve been on massage tables since I was high school. In my younger years, I would just go about anywhere for a Massage without realizing that receiving a massage is an exchange of energy. It’s essential to be sure the person who is massage your body has good positive energy 💚 In the past, I’ve traveled to spas and getaway weekends with girls friends to get massages and facials. I don’t do that anymore. I prefer to stay with the massage therapist that I know, trust and call a friend. Her style is very nurturing and her energy is balanced and amazing. She is very caring and respectful when she massages my body. I find that comforting and trust-worthy. She knows my body. She understand my concerns. She respects my wishes. When I am laying naked on her table, I am safe. That says a lot. I’ve spent hundreds of dollars in the past at spas for the “spa” experience only to find comfort, safety and trust right in my Chiropractor’s office 15 minutes from home. I now see her every two months for Pink Himalayan Salt Stone Massages which helps with neck and shoulder tension. My TMJ has been way more manageable since I started doing this. It feels good to know I can trust her and totally relax while I am on her table.

Pink Himalayan Salt Benefits

For those not familiar but curious about Pink Himalayan Salt Stone massage, here’s what happens…My therapist heats the stones and dips them in Lavendar infused Coconut Oil before running the stones along muscles in all areas of the body. Her style integrates philosophies of Eastern medicine, Lomi Lomi, Shiatsu, Swedish massage, thermal therapy and salt therapies to create an array of possible benefits: Increase blood circulation, Reduce inflammation, Improve sleep, Induce deep relaxation and Improves overall sense of well-being – plus the hot stones feel amazing and really get the knots out! After the massage I had sushi for dinner and slept great on Friday night. I am always a little tired and very relaxed the day after a massage. I pushed through it Saturday morning and knocked stuff off the “to do” list early in the morning. I felt my body slowing down around noon and decided to retreat to the coziness of my bed Saturday afternoon with my iPad to write this blog post. I love my bedroom. It really is beautiful and comfy 🙂

Bed

I also bought a new book on Leadership by General Stanley McCrystal. I prefer to hold a real book in my hands than read on my Kindle so I bought the hard cover book. The brightness of the reading on the Kindle bothers my eyes when I read at night. General McCrystal asserts you don’t need to take Leadership training to be a Leader! I’m a couple of chapters in and I am enjoying it. It’s making me think. It’s not only an exploration of leadership styles, successes and failures it’s also chuck full of history. I’m learning stuff 😂 It’s a thick book so I will probably be reading this all week plus I need to think about stuff after I read it to absorb it 😊Since I plan to take an Executive Coaching course sometime in the future so I can add that service to my Coaching services, I like to read books on Leadership. It also helps me in my full time job too.

Leadership Books: General McCrystal

I trust my body when it tells me it needs comfort and rest. I listen when it tells me it needs to be still instead of “do”. I am going to Philly for the day on Sunday and know I will be driving a lot tomorrow so I am enjoying some downtime before a busy day tomorrow.

I am still in a transition at work. After I rejected an offer last week, my acting Director asked me to give her a little time to strategize an alternative. I was told the other day, they are indeed looking at alternatives for me so the deal isn’t dead yet 🙂 Here’s the thing, I TRUST this Acting Director that I’ve only known for a year — more than I ever trusted other managers I’ve known for ten years. I do truly believe she is on my side but I also know she will do what is best and most ethical for business. I respect that. I can’t ask for more from her. This situation is requiring me to be really patient. It’s hard not knowing how something is going to work out. I second guessed my decision a little earlier in the week until I remembered I knew in my heart and in my gut the job I rejected, the way it was structured, was not right for me. I trusted my intuition and I still feel good about that decision. I see now it’s not really about WHO I work for. I would be fine working in either organization. My intuition has been telling me this transition is about ensuring I am doing work that I find satisfying and fulfilling. It is also about ensuring I am fairly compensated for my level of responsibility and skills. I am TRUSTING my intuition on this one.

My lesson this week has been to TRUST the Universe and believe in Divine Timing. Divine Timing is the spiritual concept that things happen when they are meant to happen. You can’t rush something. Things happen in a sequence for a divine purpose.

I’ve been using these affirmations to keep my thoughts positive.
✨ I trust everything is always working out for my highest good.
✨ I trust my intuition
✨ I trust my body’s wisdom
✨ I have complete trust and faith in the Universe

Divine Timing

ACTION:
The Action for this week is to simply trust and have faith on the Divine Timing in your life. Work on trusting your own intuition. Practice patience and have faith. Consider using affirmations throughout the day to stay positive. You can use the affirmations I list above if you like, or make one for yourself. Remember…Affirmations are positive in nature; they affirm that something is true.

Diving Timing quote

As Always – I will be including the Loving Kindness Prayer on every post going forward because I believe love can and will triump over evil. Light will prevail over darkness. I believe we need to put LOVE into the Universe. Love each other…

Remember to put a little love in the world by saying the Loving Kindness Prayer for someone special. I often like to say it for special people in my life as well for groups such as my family, friends, coworkers and all beings.

Loving Kindness Prayer💙
May you be safe
May you be healthy
May you be happy
May you be loved

I claim love as my vibration for 2019.
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Everything is always working out for my highest good 💙🦋

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Self Care Sunday – Trust Your Gut Instinct

Gut instinct intuition

For me, Self Care has a lot to do with following and trusting my intuition. It’s not always easy to trust the small voice inside when external forces are trying to manipulate and apply pressure. It’s not always easy to remain true to myself and honor myself while others are trying to mold me into something else. Nope, It’s not always easy to be a round peg in a world of square holes. However, I learned this week that my intuition and gut instincts have been spot on lately! I learned the value of trusting that small voice even though I started to doubt myself under external pressure.

Intuition

It all started with me basically turning down a job offer this week from the group I’ve been working with over the last year. The offer was premature. There are problems and challenges in a Program I’ve been working on during the last year that are above my level of responsibility; they need to be addressed before any long term commitments on my part can be discussed. When the topic came up, I hit the breaks HARD to force the conversation.

Well, apparently folks were shocked that I didn’t jump at the permanent opportunity and I also nixed the request to extend my temporary assignment😉It’s time for me to settle into a permanent spot that is a good fit for me on all levels. This set off a series of events culminating in my DC based Acting Director traveling up to my office to talk to me in person on Thursday 😂 For the record, I have a fabulous relationship with this Acting Director. She leads from her heart. She is authentic and honest; I genuinely like and respect her. I also love her individuality; she rocks a nose-ring that looks fabulous with her Indian skin💁🏽‍♀️ My Outreach Program would not have been able to get off the ground without her. Every read-ahead briefing I sent her in the last year came back red-lined and with comments, lots of comments 😂 She challenged me and made me better. We get along very well 👍

A few minutes into our conversation she noticed I was speaking cautiously and that’s when she gave me the green light to speak openly. I explained that I couldn’t accept a job to continue in my current role because we haven’t had any discussion about the inherent challenges to the program now that the year is over. I explained how those challenges will limit any future success. I gave her detailed information on all of the “internal” challenges including a perception from LEADERS that it is only a “vanity program” for my Sponsor. I can’t ethically represent a program I feel is disingenuous and lacks authenticity unless these challenges are addressed at a level higher than me. Well…that was a lot to say 😂😂After taking a deep breathe, she knew I was speaking the truth to her. She’s been sensing the same but wasn’t sure if her perception was right. It was during our conversation we realized we both were concerned and uneasy and I was looking out for her by slowing things down…She wants to rethink things a bit. I walked her to the van waiting to pick her up. When we hugged, she whispered in my ear that she still wants me to work for her and said our conversation isn’t over yet😂😂😂

All I am saying is that if I didn’t listen to my intuition, I could have gotten myself stuck in a program that has a hard road to future success. I would have also been stuck doing “transactional” financial work that I don’t really enjoy. Lastly, I would have been setting her up for a potential failure too. That doesn’t mean she won’t find a path to success; something could change. I actually wouldn’t mind Budget Formulation work because it is more strategic in nature but I am not interested in “approving” transactions every day for living. Nope, no thanks! Now some would say I should have leveraged this offer to get something in my old group before returning. That felt disingenuous to me. I had absolutely no intention of pursuing the opportunity the way it was presented. If my bluff was called, I would have been screwed. There was no reason to play that game with people I actually like. If the other group comes back with an offer that I would seriously consider pursuing, then I will contact my boss before accepting and have a authentic conversation. I am not a game player😉

On the other side of things, I actually feel good about going back to my old group too. I realized that I was just burnt out when I left them a year ago. I shut down to all conversations and wanted to take a break from them because I was exhausted and burnt out. I am refreshed now. I am also better at enforcing boundaries and taking care of myself now. I recognize that I need to speak up when I am approaching burn out. The problem was that group was in one crisis after another for a long time and I didn’t see an end to it. I took the opportunity to have a different experience and take a break from it. I had a great year and great experience but if it’s time to go back, it’s time to go back. I am looking forward to helping them again. I am just going to trust my intuition.

Intuition

I am still not sure how this all is going to work out in the coming weeks. In meantime, I’ve decided to disconnect from it for a bit. I have four day weekend from work. I am in training on Tuesday and off on Wednesday to go back to Jefferson Hospital for a follow up. Hopefully, I’ll have until next Thursday to take a break from the stress of this situation.

My other exciting news from the week is that I finally applied for Board Certification from the American Association for Drugless Practitioners. Once this done, I can call myself a Board Certified Holistic Health Practitioner and add CHHP after my name. I can still call myself a Integrative Nutrition Health Coach but this will let me order hair and mineral tests for clients as well as state credentialing. I am also interested in taking a professional development course for Executive Coaching certification. I am still looking into this. The course I want is expensive. I am not ready to finance this just yet; nor am I ready to go back to school just yet. I need my career situation to settle down a bit before committing to that. This is all part of my plan to build up my second post-retirement career in Coaching under my own LLC while working on my first career.

ACTION
The Action this week is to spend some time tuning into your intuition. Your intuition is the small voice inside of you that often tells you to do things that are scary 😂 Your intuition is the small voice that tells when something isn’t right for you. Your intuition is the small voice that knows what is in alignment with YOUR highest good. Your intuition is what prevents you from being manipulated!

How to tune into your intuition?
✨ Trust & follow your instincts. The more you do this the stronger your intuition will be!
✨ Limit your use of alcohol and drugs. They numb your inner voice!
✨ Surround yourself with people who are positive and uplifting! Negativity is draining!
✨ Disconnect from noise & distractions. Take a break from the TV, phone and radio!
✨ Meditate and Pray. Some of my best inner wisdom comes to me while sitting in prayer!
✨ Talk to your Guides & Angels – Ask them for help. Ask them for a sign.
✨ Speak your truth even when your voice shakes!
✨ Open your Heart Chakra so you can hear the wisdom of your heart. Wear green and google “Heart Chakra”. Heart opening Mantra is below.
✨ Open your Third Eye Chakra. Wear Indigo and educate yourself on the Third Eye Chakra. Third Eye opening Mantra is below.
TRUST YOURSELF!

Chakras

Heart Chakra

Third Eye Chakra

As Always – I will be including the Loving Kindness Prayer on every post going forward because I believe love can and will triump over evil. Light will prevail over darkness. I believe we need to put LOVE into the Universe. Love each other…

Remember to put a little love in the world by saying the Loving Kindness Prayer for someone special. I often like to say it for special people in my life as well for groups such as my family, friends, coworkers and all beings.

Loving Kindness Prayer💙
May you be safe
May you be healthy
May you be happy
May you be loved

I claim love as my vibration for 2019.
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Self Care Sunday – What does your body need?

Body quotes

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It’s Saturday and I had to struggle to get myself out of bed today. I feel old, slow and irritable today. Some days are like this. I’ll be 52 years old next month. While I generally feel good most days lately, some days my body feels every bit of those 52 years. Today is that day and it’s ok. It’s all ok.

I got a chiropractor adjustment last night for the first time in two months so my back is a little sore from that. He told me I was way out of alignment and my right hip was riding like two inches higher that the left. That explained the hip pain while doing yoga in recent weeks. Somehow I’ve managed to walk 10,000 steps every day and close all of my Apple Watch activity Rings every day since December 27th even with a sore hip. As you get older, you get used to moving through pain. I’ve also learned it’s worse when I am inactive for long periods of time. I force myself to move even when I’m sore.

chiropractor quotes

My TMJ and the arthritis in the left side of my jaw have also been flared up in recent weeks. I mostly blame stress and anxiety for that. That’s my stress spot. I aggravated it by eating things that are crunchy/chewy. I went out to dinner with friends earlier in the week and order a delicious hangar steak. I had the left overs the next day. I haven’t eaten steak in a while because it can be hard to chew. I am paying for it but it was worth it. As you get older you collect more aches and pains but you can’t stop moving or living. I slept late today and allowed myself to move at slower pace but I still walked 10,000 steps and closed my activity rings even with a sore hip and a sore jaw! I will confess by 5:00pm I was toast and could barely get off the sofa to make myself dinner. This Saturday has been about surrender and allowing my body rest and repair while still moving.

I did something this past week that I don’t often do. I asked someone for guidance. I never really ask anyone for guidance/help because I’ve learned to trust my own inner wisdom. I also don’t trust a lot of folks because everyone is running their own game and doing what’s best for them. I’ve learned to look after myself and live by intuition. No one looks after me like I do…However, in this situation I was feeling like I was too far in the middle of a situation to see a clear path forward and I don’t know the bigger picture – so many variables are in play.

Ask for help quotes

I went to bed Wednesday night with the situation heavily on my mind and I had the funniest dream. I had a dream BlueLove and I were on a roller coaster and at the top of a steep long drop. I was SCREAMING – I mean SCREAMING 😵😂 I hate roller coasters. As we started going down, I started screaming and grabbed onto him 💙 I held onto him like my life depended on it 😂 💙 He was just sitting there looking at me and smiling with that “you’ll be fine” look 😊 I woke up as soon as I had the dream. I giggled because the dream was true to life 😂 I hate roller coasters as much as he loves them and he does give me that same look when I start to freak out😂 Anyway, I fell back to sleep but remembered the dream when I woke up. After thinking about it, I decided the dream was my intuition telling me to reach out to him for guidance because I do trust him. He’s one of the few I trust completely 💙 I really don’t know how the situation is going to work out. Only time will tell. I will trust everything is always working out for my highest good.

Roller Coaster Meme

The point of relaying the above story is that sometimes self care is about having the self awareness to know when it’s time to ask for help or guidance. Sometimes life is that way. Sometimes we need to ask for help. Sometimes we need to rely on experts. Sometimes another can see things with the clarity we can’t because we are too vested in the outcome or maybe we don’t know the bigger picture. The key is to be open enough and self aware enough to ask. The other key is to be sure to ask someone you trust.

ACTION
The action for the week is to check in with your physical body.
✔️What is your body asking of you?
✔️What is your body telling you?
✔️Is your body asking for rest?
✔️Is your body asking for movement?
✔️Is your body asking for tender, loving care?
✔️Is your body telling you something is injured or perhaps needs medical attention?

Scan your body and notice all your aches and pains. Are any of them new? Have any of them intensified? Is it time to seek help or care? Can you send love to all of your aches and pains and accept yourself just the way you are? 💙

Body quotes

WHATEVER IS FALLING AWAY IS NO LONGER FOR MY HIGHEST GOOD!

As Always – I will be including the Loving Kindness Prayer on every post going forward because I believe love can and will triump over evil. Light will prevail over darkness. I believe we need to put LOVE into the Universe. Love each other…

Remember to put a little love in the world by saying the Loving Kindness Prayer for someone special. I often like to say it for special people in my life as well for groups such as my family, friends, coworkers and all beings.

Loving Kindness Prayer💙
May you be safe
May you be healthy
May you be happy
May you be loved

I claim love as my vibration for 2019.
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Self Care Sunday – What’s Next

What’s Next

What’s Next? Is a question I often ask myself. I am planner and strategic thinker. I am always looking ahead. This Self Care Sunday I am focusing on the career aspect of my holistic wellness and looking forward to what’s next.

I left work at 4:00pm on December 21st believing I would be out of the office until January 2nd on vacation. I ended up being out of the office for an unexpected 35 day government shutdown. January was a month filled with stress, anxiety and depression. Over one million people including government employees and contractors as well as companies that do business with government were negatively impacted by this ugly shutdown. January 2019 will be a month that won’t soon be forgotten and it will take time to assess the long term impact it had on my workplace.

I spent all of 2018 working in a role doing outreach for my employer to higher education institutions. January was supposed to be my last month in the role. My official last day in this role is this coming Friday. We lost my whole last month. I am going back on Monday not sure what we are going do. My boss said he would reach out and see if he can extend my assignment so we can have some time to assess things the way we were planning to do in January.

It’s funny. Before the shutdown, I knew exactly where I wanted to end up. I knew I want to stay in the group I am working with now. Something happened while I’ve been out of work the last five weeks. I started thinking about my old group and the work they do. I started wondering if maybe my talents and skills could be put to use there. I started wondering if there was some way we could work things out. Maybe I could do work I enjoy as well as do work they need. I started wondering if going back there would be for my highest good… I did not see this coming…😂 Yet, for some reason, I am very excited to be totally clueless about my future 😂

Go with the flow

If you read my blog regularly, you probably know by now I do not base my career decisions on money. Money may be part of the negotiation but it is not the deciding factor. Extra money doesn’t buy satisfaction, fulfillment or happiness for me. I seem to flourish and enjoy myself the most in roles where I am directly helping someone, impacting someone’s life for the better. I also like strategic work. I like planning and project/program management. I like being out and about; doing stakeholder engagement. I like working with all levels of leadership and I like having freedom. I guess that’s why I’ve been very successful in my current role. I’ve been giving a lot of freedom and have been able to use all the skills/tools in my box with the freedom I enjoy. But the reality is if I really screwed up in this role, the impact would have been minimal. They could afford to give me freedom. In an operations organization, things need to be more conservative because the impact of screwing up could be huge and far reaching. The reigns need to be a little tighter in an operations based organization.

I can’t honestly say I know what I want to do. I can’t honestly say I have a plan in mind. Not having a plan is completely out of character for me. As I said, I am planner and a strategist. I always have a plan. I am always thinking three moves ahead. As I was thinking about this morning and praying on it, I kept feeling…JUST GO WITH THE FLOW… I know it sounds strange to say to I felt…JUST GO WITH THE FLOW…but for me intuition, intuitive wisdom comes as a feeling rather than something I hear. A thought comes to my mind and it feels intuitively good and right. While asking Angles and Guides for guidance today, the words…JUST GO WITH THE FLOW…kept playing on a loop in my mind and it feels right.

Go with the flow

I am going to the flow. I will return to work on Monday without a plan. I will not lobby for one job or another. I will allow the Universe to direct me. I will have faith everything is always working out for my highest good and I will trust my intuition to guide me to the right path. The nice thing about this approach is that I feel very OPEN. I feel open to all opportunities that may manifest for my highest good and also feels good to my intuition. I also feel I am prepared to seize the right opportunity. I feel at peace with this approach. It feels good to let go of directing, controlling and planning. Maybe I’ll stay where I am and pursue a new role with them as they talked to me about in early December. Maybe I’ll go back to a new role in my old group or perhaps God will throw a curve ball and send a whole new opportunity my way. What I know for sure is the official end date in my current role is Friday, February 2nd. I also know any opportunity I accept has to allow me to help others in some way and allow room for growth. That’s all I know.

Opportunities quote

ACTION
The action for this week is reflect on what’s going on in your life. Ask yourself the following questions:

✔️ Can I let go?
✔️ Is there something I am trying too hard to control?
✔️ Am I holding on too tightly to a belief, a person or a job?
✔️ Am I trying too hard to hold it all together?
✔️ Can I let go?
✔️ Can I go with the flow?

As Always – I will be including the Loving Kindness Prayer on every post going forward because I believe love can and will triump over evil. Light will prevail over darkness. I believe we need to put LOVE into the Universe. Love each other…

Remember to put a little love in the world by saying the Loving Kindness Prayer for someone special. I often like to say it for special people in my life as well for groups such as my family, friends, coworkers and all beings.

Loving Kindness Prayer💙
May you be safe
May you be healthy
May you be happy
May you be loved

I claim love as my vibration for 2019.
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Everything is always working out for my highest good 💙🦋

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Self Care Sunday – Deep Thoughts and Stress Management

Kindness

Deep Thoughts
I’ve been thinking a lot about fantasy vs. reality this week. Often reality doesn’t measure up to the fantasy we create in our minds. Folks fantasize that new jobs will be so much better than their current jobs . People fantasize about retirement only to find out they liked working. People fantasize about magical first kisses only to find the real first kiss to be a bit awkward and filled with nervousness. This doesn’t mean that reality sucks. Quite the contrary. Reality may be perfect but our illusions and fantasies created unachievable expectations.

When we fantasize, we create expectations based on false narratives that often sets us up for disappointment. This happens when we live in the future rather than living in the present (now). We tell ourselves things like “My life will so much happier once I…buy that house, retire, meet my soulmate, lose 20lbs.” We fantasize so much about the future that we lose satisfaction and happiness today.

I am not saying people shouldn’t fantasize. I love to daydream and fantasize. I am saying that we need be cognizant that the reality may not match what we create in our minds. This doesn’t mean our reality is bad or lacking something, it means we expected too much and made satisfaction unachievable. I’ve found that I am happier by scaling back my expectations in all aspects of my life. I’ve grounded myself in gratitude for what’s good in this moment while still fantasizing about what might be magical in the future. The key takeaway from this to find a way to be happy now in this moment while you are in limbo and waiting for something in future. Keep one foot in reality while you are daydreaming about the magical future.

ACTION: Ground yourself in the present moment. Find a way to be happy right now while you are fantasizing about the future. Remember the reality won’t always match the fantasy but it doesn’t mean it’s any less magical.

Fantasy

Stress Management
This week has been a stress management challenge. So far I am doing a great job but I’ve had my moments.

I’ve decided to open my mind a bit. I am updating my resume and doing an exploration of jobs outside of the “company”. Of course, I don’t really want to leave the “company” but I think it’s good to take the opportunity to see what’s available on the outside. Who knows what’s out there? Maybe it’s time to start opening my mind to what life looks like on the outside? Maybe my dream job will land in my lap :-).

Here’s what I’ve learned during this “break”:

✅ I do not need a cleaning lady. I can do it myself and save the money. I need to keep more money in my savings for the possibility of future shutdowns.
✅ I’ve learned I was spending too much money on sushi and need to cut back on that permanently.
✅ I’ve found GREAT yoga practices on YouTube that I love. I do not need to pay for a studio membership or to take classes at studio. I have everything I need at home. I’ve practiced yoga everyday since mid December. It’s been great to have focus and move and sweat. I’m definitely feeling stronger and more flexible. Juiciness in my hips is back 😊
✅ I realized I can walk in condo from one end to the other on days the weather is bad and still close the rings on my Apple Watch every day 😊 This eliminates the weather excuse and doesn’t require me paying for gym membership to use the treadmill.
✅ I’ve been cooking at home and doing meal prep like I should have been doing for the last few months. I made Sausage, Broccoli Rabe and White Bean Soup and Chicken Caccatori that were both AWESOME. I froze a few portions for future meals 🙂

ACTION:
Look for ways to manage stress without resorting to drugs and alcohol. Here a few suggestions:

✅ Exercise
✅ Walking
✅ Mediation
✅ Yoga
✅ Talk to friend
✅ Watch a funny TV show or movie
✅ Make a budget for yourself and stick to it
✅ Clean your house, clean out your garage or junk drawer
✅ Tidy up! Organize your house; an organized house carries better universal energy. I’ve been watching “Tidying Up with Marie Kondo” on Netflix. Honestly, just looking at those messy houses stresses me out. I am a “Everything has a place” kind of girl. Before I go to bed each night, I walk around and put everything back in it’s place 😊 Universal energy moves easier in a tidy house 😂😂
✅ Stay busy; don’t sit and think all day
✅ Turn the TV off. Watch a little news but don’t obsess over it all day
✅ Hug someone or call a friend
✅ Help another human being
✅ Read a book, Color, draw, write, make love
✅ PRAY; pray is healing

Remember to put a little love in the world with the Loving Kindness Prayer

Loving Kindness Prayer💙
May you be safe
May you be healthy
May you be happy
May you be loved

I claim love as my vibration for 2019.
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Self Care Sunday – Vanity & Intentions

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My posts have been a bit heavy lately so I am lightening it up in today’s Self Care post about my vanity and intentions. I would like to say that I am spiritual enough to not be vain but apparently that’s not true and I am ok with it😂

The Grey Experiment
I went for a haircut earlier this week. My hair stylist says to me, “Are you intentionally letting your hair grow out all grey?” 😂 I said, “No, I am just tardy coloring it.” She says, “Wow, I’ve never seen you this grey.” 😂 I wasn’t offended but it did make me wonder what I would look like with all grey hair. It would certainly be less maintenance! As of Friday morning I was going to experiment for a few weeks and not color my hair. Well, that didn’t last very long… On Friday I went to get a massage and Chiropractic adjustment. My Massage Therapist and Chiropractor share an office. They were both there when I walked in and were talking about aging. I told them about my conversation with my hair stylist. After they got done laughing, my Chiropractor(a 45 year old guy that I’ve been friends with for a very long time) says, “You are too young looking and pretty to be all grey this soon! Color your hair. I would tell my wife the same thing!” And then he winked at me 😂I figured a guy’s opinion was good confirmation. So much for my grey experiment. After my adjustment and massage, I bought a box of color. My hair is no longer grey.

For the record, I am a BIG FAN of grey hair on men! When I was in my twenties I dated a guy in his late 40s. He had salt & pepper grey hair with beautiful blue eyes. I was wild about him. Blue Love has salt & pepper hair with beautiful blue eyes too. I am still wild about him even after all these years too 😉💙🔥😂 Yep, I am a BIG FAN of grey hair on men but not on me yet!….

Photo Shoot
Thursday was a great day in work. A vision I had a few months ago came to fruition exactly as I envisioned it. I hosted seven young men, the Dean of Engineering and a Professor from a Historically Black College and University (HBCU) at my workplace. I chaperoned them on a tour of our Research & Development facilities and then gave them the opportunity to present their research to my Director and leadership team in a large state of the art executive conference room. We also had mentors available to them for the last hour of the visit to discuss jobs and internships. I don’t know who was smiling more me or my Director during the student presentations.😊It was really rewarding to offer the young men the opportunity and it was also rewarding to see my vision come to fruition. It gave me some ideas for the future. It felt good to do some good in the world.

Our Communications Office is writing a news article about the visit and a photographer was with us all day. The Communications Office sent me the photos they plan to use in the article. Don’t ya know they chose the one group shot I was apparently scratching my leg😂 OMFG! I asked them if they could choose another. They laughed 😂Then told me I looked fine and I shouldn’t worry about it. I said, “But seriously, it looks like I was scratching my leg in the photo!” He started laughed again and said, “The photos are great. You were awesome today! RELAX!” Can you understand why I would want them to choose a different photo?😂 Anyways, I think I lost that battle; I’m pretty sure they will use the photo even though they took over 300 photos that day…sigh 😂

BOOBS
I have big boobs. I can’t hide them but now I have a scar in my cleavage from a cyst that was surgically removed last year. People look at it. As if 38DDD were not enough for folks to look at — now I have a scar in there to draw their attention. I am not going to hide my cleavage every day but I am actually thinking about seeing a plastic surgeon next year to fix the scar.

YOGA
I haven’t practiced yoga since I broke my foot in March. The small broken bone on the outside of my right ankle affected my whole leg and hip. Even with physical therapy it took forever to heal. It does still occasionally bother me and that largely depends on the type of shoes I wear. As a result, my leg hasn’t been strong enough to support a few yoga positions. This is a drag. I love yoga. Yoga is my escape; my refuge. I’ve noticed a huge difference in my body’s flexibility in the last few months. I am much tighter than I was. As someone who has been double jointed and very flexible my entire life, the restriction in my body is extremely frustrating.

I set an intention for 2019. Since my leg is starting to feel stronger, I am going to enroll in beginner’s yoga course in January at a local studio. While I am not a beginner, I’ve been practicing yoga for many years, a beginners course will start slow and gradually advance me back to where I was. This will lessen any chance of injury and give my body a chance to open gradually.

Sleep
Let me just say, I need seven to eight hours solid sleep most nights or I become exhausted. One of the challenges of menopause is that it is causing me to have broken sleep almost every night or no sleep some nights. It’s really frustrating and some days I am downright exhausted. I finally talked to my doctor who prescribed a low dose non habit forming sleep aid (Trazadone) to use as needed. I tried it Friday night. It didn’t help me fall asleep faster but it did help me stay asleep longer without waking up every two hours. I know I slept because I had vivid sex dreams last night…very vivid 🔥😉😂Since I have a recovering drug addict in my family, I am very aware about dependence on medication so I won’t be taking it every night. But it is nice to have something that I can use when I really need a good night’s sleep and the sex dreams are a nice bonus 😂

Setting intentionsACTION: Set an Intention for 2019
Do you have an Intention for 2019? Take a few moments and think about what how you envision 2019. What actions can you take in 2019 to support your holistic wellness? What do you want in your life in 2019? Who do you want in your life in 2019? What can you do to make that happen? Set an Intention…

Here’s my Intention for yoga as an example:

I will practice gentle yoga and take a beginner’s series yoga class…in order to…increase space and flexibility in my body without causing injury… starting in January 2019.

Use this formula to write your own intentions for the day, week, month or year…

✔️Intentions Start with an action sentence (I am, I will, etc).

✔️Include the statement “in order to”

✔️End it with a timeframe for accountability.

Mindful Challenge
Here’s a quick mindful exercise from Mindful Magazine https://www.mindful.org that can be done standing or seated.

Mindful Challenge

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